How do men communicate after first time hooking up if they want to see you again? When do they usually ask to meet up again?

[Anonymous]

I (24f) matched with this guy (29m) on tinder, I recognized him from a social club we participate in. He got my Snapchat Sunday last week. He asked what I’m looking for, I said I’m open to see where things go-he said same. We snapped sparingly every other day. Mid last week convos moved to more sex related topics. On Thursday I agreed to hang out/come over on Friday.

I got there Friday, he drove us to get dinner then back to watch a movie. We eased into cuddling, but after 40 minutes into the movie (and just handhold), I looked over at him to smile then continue watching movie. He would smile and say “hi” or “what” playfully. After 4th time, he kissed me.
We made out a long time then had sex (the sex was great). Then we went back to finish movie.
After the movie I headed home. He messaged me right after I left, asked to let him know when I made it home. I didn’t respond until late in the night & thanked him for having me over. He responded early the next morning (Saturday) that he hoped I had a good time. Late afternoon I said “you too” and he said that he did. I didn’t want to seem clingy after hooking up once so I just liked his last message late in evening.
Next day (Sunday) about noon, he sent a Snap asking how’s it going. I responded 5 hours later. We chatted a bit through the late evening (I took a long time to respond between each snap). I didn’t answer his last snap for about an hour, so it was ~12am when sent. Next morning (Monday) he opened it but never sent anything back. It is now Tuesday night and nothing since.
I don't know if this means he isn’t interested in seeing me again. I don’t want to seem clingy/too eager so I don't know if I can reach out next.

Am I overthinking? How does this work? We weren’t taking things serious, so I don’t want to seem like I expect anything from him. I had fun tho and want to at least hookup again in the future.
How do men often communicate after a hookup they want to sleep with again.

[Makeushiver]

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[jahaims]

We don't have universal personalities because we share a gender

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Show him you're interested too. It takes two to tango. A little flirting won't hurt! 😉

Those responses are pretty normal from a man and doesn't sound negative to me. You were replying late that's why he assumed that maybe he's disturbing you or you don't like him that much.

[Nikki1989]

Who knows?

Some may be more shy or hesitant, while others may be more direct.

[Anonymous]

It's been over 2 weeks since you asked this so I'm presuming you have your answer by now, but yeah--I'd definitely get in touch soon if I wanted to meet up again after that. Particularly if the sex was good.

I do find it curious that you actually went back to watching the movie after sex. And that in that period you didn't end up going another round. I find that a not so good sign. Were you watching the rest of the movie naked and in bed together? Did you get dressed after sex and finish the movie. What happened?

[Asker]

We were watching the movie on the couch in his living room. I got on his lap, we made out for a bit, cracked jokes back and forth still, but as things started getting more handsy we went to his bedroom (which was upstairs). Made out some more, had sex, and then got cleaned up right away. We looked for our clothes right away (which had been tossed all over the room) and then headed back downstairs to his living room. Movie was still playing so we sat down to finish it. We cuddled and he held my hand which seemed odd for a hookup but quite sweet. He showed me some stuff on his phone about his hobbies. After the movie I headed home (he had work early the next morning).

[Asker]

For the other part of your question:
I ended up messaging him the day after I posted this and asked how his week was going (he responded). I also apologized for my response time previously and asked if he would want to hang out again that week (I said that if not I understand/just wanted to check where he’s at rather than assuming). He said yes, we then snapped everyday for a week (he asked me to come over almost every night except for a couple days he was busy). Our schedules lined up a week later (which was a Wednesday night) and I went over. Same thing, movie then sex and hung out for couple hours after. We did not message/snap in the days after.
The following Sunday, we were at the social club we both go to at the same time (I didn’t know if I should approach him there or not so I avoided the confrontation before he saw me). He apparently saw me leaving and chased after me on my way out. He came up to me all smiley/nice, put his arm around me and we walked out together. Before parting at our cars, I asked if he was gonna be busy the whole week. He said he’d be busy that Tuesday (as he had a job that would go late into the night) but would lmk about later in the week. I snapped him Wednesday morning and asked how late job went. He left it on opened and never responded. It is a week today since he left me on read and I haven’t seen him since either… so long story short I’ve been ghosted lol

[Opinion Owner]

Weird! Sorry you were ghosted! Must be some other girl in the mix too if i had to guess.

[Danny_dan92]

He noticed a change in your response times so he pulled away. He’s gone now

[Nirmroth]

This, if a girl starts to respond like this to me I would assume she lost interest and move on.