Should you try to contact a guy if he says "I hope we meet again soon"?

[Anonymous]

So I met this guy at a party and we kinda talked a little. I really liked him and I think he liked me but when he was leaving he said "It was great meeting you, I hope we see each other again soon". When I got home after the party I looked him up on Facebook and I think I found him but what I want to know is if I should send him a message or try to be friends with him. I don't know if it would give off that creepy stalker vibe or something. Someone please give me advice!

[Whoknows87]

just message him first, don't friend request yet...just be like it was great meeting you and I wanted to stay in contact with you, as well. We didn't exchange numbers, so I figured this was the best way to get in touch with you. (This way...the convo is between you and him only, nobody else can see if because its not a wall post.)

People are hypersensitive when it comes to friend requests...however, I'm a guy and I kind of get skeptical of the friend request...ONLY when it's someone I don't know.

Here's my rule of thumb for Facebook...Don't be too quick to Facebook request people.

Always meet someone in person first...and get to know what their deal is

it's better for you to know someone else personally first before you friend request them.

If you two hit it off well, then request him, but in truth Facebook acts as a barrier and a connector.

If you two click and everything is great...I'd suggest not to communicate via Facebook through wall posts or anything. I've been blackmailed once because of Facebook in this type of situation and it ruined everything.

Keep everything between you and him...If you wanna talk to him, call him or just chill with him. Don't use Facebook as a way to communicate. Add him as a friend though.

There are jealous people out there, especially in High school, who love drama and would love to read the wall posts and see what's going on. Trust me, it happened to me and I will NEVER let it happen again.

Don't let yourself become the center of all the gossip. Enjoy yourself and be happy.

Good Luck and Let me know how it goes. I've been through it.

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

On your first advance, you set the standard and shape his thoughts of you.

SO!

Make sure not to be boring and say, "Hi. What's up?", like every girl before you did.

You want to lure him and make him message you first every time, not the other way around. In other words, you want control.

The first message should be a trap to lure him in. It essence, it should be a cliffhanger. For example, and you can use this if you want, "I think you're a four letter word. You have 4 guesses, good luck."

And don't say anything else.

But there you have it. Any other questions, just ask me, I'd love to answer.

Sincerely,

~Not Just Another Guy

[blueyedgrll]

Um no lol that would be creepy on your part. I would find out who he hangs out with, and if you or your friends already know some of those people. It's all about networking. It might be ok if he's friends with one of your close friends, but to just add someone you just met who is not within your circle of friends can be a little weird. Plan another party and hope that someone who knows him is there. That way you can hint at how cute he was and how cool it would be if he showed up. Hoping to see someone again soon and having that person go straight home to find you on Facebook will probably set him off, not in a good way, so just hope for the best like he is and go from there.

[Whoknows87]

I wouldn't do too much investigating....his friends don't necessarily make him the person that he is. Don't be too judgemental, just cautious.

[blueyedgrll]

Im not talking about trying to figure out who he is. I'm talking about how it is creepy to add someone on Facebook and have that person not know anyone that you know. that's the first thing I look for when someone friend requests me. if we don't have any mutual friends then I won't add the person. especially if she only met him once at a party. I see that as far from being friends enough to invite them into your personal life aka:Facebook.