The best way to say sorry and melt his heart?

[Anonymous]

I just had a fight with the guy that I'm in love (and apparently in love with me as well) with, we had a strange argument, and he got all riled up when I counter his anger with jokes (my bad, I know), delete my contact from his blackberry messenger, blocked me from twitter and last he sent me a super long text saying that it's time to shut me up forever (sounds like someone from a thriller movie -_-), that he had hoped that he can change my attitude but it's getting much worse each day (he's really mad at me about this argument *or my response to it* I guess ._.) And that he had hoped that I can somehow take all of his problems away, but sadly, I don't. (Geez), and well, I've been trying to say sorry but he said no to it. I tried to drop an 'I love you' (because it usually works in calming him down when he was mad at me, the fastest way), but he slept in and didn't get my messages -_- so what do you think I should do if the 'I love you' doesn't work? I really am sorry for treating him that way..

[CrystalMinds]

The only thing you can do is say sorry (and mean it). If he doesn't accept them, well...too bad for him that he can't get over the fact that caused the fight. If he's saying stuff like that to you and still claims he loves you while he can't even accept your apology? Mh... I don't know.

Don't go stalker on him saying sorry. Once is enough when you mean it. Just give him some time to cool down, a couple of days maybe, and when 3-4 days are over, contact him again and just ask: hey, what's up?

Or something casual like that. If he's not the person that can just move on from things, you can ask him to talk things out, because you feel for him and he feels for you. If he truly does love you, he will budge, and he will talk to you. If he doesn't budge and stays Mr. Stubborn, I don't think he loves you that much.

So I don't think you should look for things to do that could "melt his heart", just tell him how you feel. Some people like being "tricked into forgiveness", other people think it's just a stupid trick and laugh with it and think it's endearing, and other people will just think it's annoying and shallow.

So you must know what type of person he is and if he does likes the "tricks" (I'll just call em that way), maybe grab some balloons that say sorry and bake a cake (with frosting "sorry") or something like that. I like the cake idea though, or a sweet letter where you explain everything.

Good luck!

[Asker]

He forgives me too much though :( every time I did something wrong he'd say that he's tired of me but in the end he sticks around, I did it again, he forgives. Again and again. I even 'friend-zoned' him at a point and he got so mad he doesn't even talk to me, and even then, he forgives me shortly after I said that I still love him. A vicious cycle created by my own stubbornness, I believe. But I do love him and I do wanted him to forgive me and change myself though.. I love him :(

[CrystalMinds]

Well, if he does it every time, just give him some time to cool down, tell him you're sorry and you still love him and he'll be fine?

[Asker]

I hope so... He's still ignoring me. But I guess I'll try to confront him on Friday, I'm going to meet him in an event, so I guess that's my chance to talk to him. But I never talk to him first whenever we saw each other before (pride issues ._.), so I don't think I'll manage this one. Gosh...

[CrystalMinds]

Sometimes you gotta put your pride aside to save a friendship/relationship.

[UberTroll]

" I tried to drop an 'I love you' (because it usually works in calming him down when he was mad at me, the fastest way)"

That's called manipulation and as you can see, that only works for so long before people get tired of it. You can't just say a few words and magically make everything better. You have to pay attention to WHY the other person's upset and actually make an effort to fix the problem. Personally it sounds like you two just aren't compatible with each other. I'd leave him alone and move on.

[Asker]

Actually, we aren't. We don't even have THAT much in common. Yes, I REALLY need to fix my attitude and grow up. I've been living all this time knowing that he'd forgive me no matter what I did, even back when he told me he had enough with me, and that he would leave me. Well, turns out he didn't just after a few necessary 'I'm sorry'. But this time I truly am sorry. I really wanted to fix this thing between us so bad. I want him back.. :(

[Anonymous]

show up to his house, on your knees crying... tell him you're sorry and mean it...

[Asker]

Uh, he'd much likely to scold me as soon as I started to fall on my knees. It's just him, he's even got mad when I'm sad over the fact that I might not be good enough for him, so I'm pretty sure he'll scold me again for begging, although to be honest with you I've been thinking about this idea a few hours ago :')

[Opinion Owner]

are you sure you want him back? He sounds mean..

[Asker]

He's IS mean, I mean, his words, whenever he scolds me it'll always hurt. But that's because he knows that everyone around me seems too soft to me, that's why he's like that (that's what he says anyway -_-), well, anyway, I want him simply because I love him, for who he is, no matter how boring and 'scoldy' he can get sometimes -_-

[PermanentGuest]

First off, change your attitude. Saying "sorry" cannot be a panacea for poor behavior on your part. Sit yourself down and determine what you have to change about your attitude. Then do so.

If you want to make this work, then tell him about some of the changes that you intend to make. Explain that you want this relationship to work.

[Asker]

Thing is, he told me once that he'd lost his hope on me, changing myself. I really do try to change though. But even the simplest 'hey' can change into a heated argument between us. I don't know what he wants from me, and vice versa (or maybe he knows what he wants from me), gee, I love him, I really do. Problem is, I'm not sure if I can guarantee that I wouldn't hurt him again if he gave me another chance :( but I want him back... Gosh...

[Longshot]

Depends if you are REALLY sorry and want to change your approach and attitude. It can be flowers, poems or whatever, but in your case it better be from the heart. He better feel like you want to turn over a new leaf with him. Otherwise forget it, it's over.

[Asker]

I mean it, I do love him and I'm sorry. Although for some unknown reason things feels a lot better when he delete me from his contacts, but thinking that there might be no him to care about me anymore, it hurts. I want him back, I'll try to change though. But I doubt that he would believe me even if I told him that... Gosh, I don't know :(

[TheChemicalMuse]

It was not the argument causing the situation, its YOU.

Let it go and move on.

Sorry, just cutting to the chase on this one.

[Asker]

Ah, I agree actually. After much thought about it, it was ME, I never changed, no matter how much he told me to. It's a fight after another, and when I don't wanna listen to him I usually shut him up by saying a simple 'uh-huh' to shut him up. I really do love him though.. And I am sorry. I want him back..