What does it mean when you no longer enjoy solitude?

[Anonymous]

I’ve live be myself for two years now. The entire time I’ve lived in my townhouse I have never felt lonely or alone. I actually enjoy my own company. As of recently I’ve had feeling of not wanting to live alone anymore. I miss my boyfriend and I’m ready to get engaged and start a family of my own. My boyfriend has a son from his previous marriage. I miss them everyday and I now have this strong desire to be under the same roof. I have not seen my boyfriend’s son in 3 weeks. His Dad said he always asks about me. This broke my heart I miss him like crazy and I’m wondering is this normal to grow out of solitude. I’ve never felt alone or lonely but now I’m feeling it.

[DaveJord]

I would say I have grown into my solitude. But what you are talking about is 100% normal. I have gone through that mess several times which why I have grown into my solitude. Because it is a huge emotional effort to get involved with someone, and then you get caught in this cycle of loneliness and solitude. Every failed relationship just puts you back into the that cycle of having someone and being happy, then having it gone.

But the truth is, and this is the thing you have to guard against, that you might of fallen in love with the idea of being in love, verses it being real love.

What I mean by that is this, the relationship ended for a reason. You love the idea of being in a relationship more than being in actual love. Because if it was real love, it would have worked out. Reading your post, it suggests to me, that you are more lonely than in actual love with this person. Because like I said that relationship ended for a reason, are those reasons still there, or are you just lonely?

You got to force yourself to get out and do things. For me, I started taking weekend trips at least once a month. Even when I go alone, I still make myself get out and go. I force myself to get outside, take walk, do a hike, ride a bake at least once every weekend. Just take a day and plan an activity, go to a farmers market, city park, music festival. Yes, all these are better when you have someone to share them with, but it is still better for your mental health to get out on your own verse sitting at home.

[RetroReviews]

Many of us are not wired to be alone and May work for a time... a season but eventually our true desires come to the surface

[DishLady]

Look... if you three are compatible, then give it a try, but remember to compromise... having been on your own so long, compromise will be the big challenge for you. If you maintain clear communication, though, you should be ok.

[Asker]

I agree in the beginning I had to adjust with compromising. I was use to doing things on my own I continuously had to remind myself I have a partner who is willing to help me in areas I normally would operate on my own. Thank you for your response this was helpful.

[sheikalana]

That's completely normal. You're ready to take things to the next level.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, love! It sounds like you're transitioning from the sweet solo symphony to craving a full-blown family orchestra—and it's as normal as can be! Embracing solitude and then suddenly feeling the pull towards togetherness is a sign that you're ready to level up in life and love. Your heartstrings are playing a different tune, longing for those meaningful connections and shared moments with your boyfriend and his son. It shows growth, love, and the natural desire for companionship and family. That longing you're feeling? It's because you're overflowing with love and ready to share your life more intimately with them. It's a beautiful thing, honestly. Letting your boyfriend know these feelings could be the next beautiful chapter in your love story. Ready to turn the page? 📖💖

[Asker]

My heart feels full thank you for your response this we very helpful.

[Anonymous]

It means you're getting light on hobbies. No. If you keep your time filled enough you care bury feelings entirely indefinitely.

[Asker]

I don't think this is the case I have a business and a day job. I'm currently working on three projects outside of work my hands are full. I don't think it's a matter of hobbies.

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like you need a fourth project.

[Krealot]

It sounds like you might be ready to get to the next step in your relationship. I wish you good luck in that

[Revolutioner_83]

some of people want to be lonely in their younger ages. the older they get, the more they want a family. this is normal and i ve been living the same situation. So I can understand you.

[DrPepper12]

That's FANTASTIC that you reflect and KNOW the difference between ALONE and LONELY. Make the move! You sound ready and good luck!

[Dinklex3]

Means it’s time to switch it up!

[Anonymous]

Because solitude is boring.

[Asker]

haha lol solitude can be fun if you manage it right.

[midnightcavern01]

You're lonely

[normalice]

It means you are finally becoming an adult.

[tomboy2003]

That you crave connection