So I asked a guy on a date a few days ago, but just realized I’m aromantic?

[sillyindigo]

Help, I’m definitely aromantic but just recently asked a guy out. I feel trerrible because I want to cancel the date. The problem is I sit beside him for 2hrs a week at band so it would probably be awkward. Especially since i was the one to approach him. should i explain my situation to him and apologize, and offer to be friends if he wants?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, that's super awkward! I can understand why you'd wanna cancel if you realize you're not into dating, but yeah doing it after asking him out would definitely make things weird.

Maybe the best thing is to just have an honest chat with him. Explain that you've been figuring some stuff out about yourself and you don't think you can really give him what he's probably looking for on a date. Tell him you still want to be cool working together in band though.

I'm sure he'll understand - it's not like you did anything wrong, you just learned more about yourself. And being upfront is better than flaking on the date last minute. Offer to still hang as friends if he wants, so it's not a completely bad or awkward interaction after. Guys respect honesty.

Just go talk to him, get it all out in the open. A little awkwardness is better than leading him on. He'll probably be cool with it as long as you're nice about it. And who knows, you might end up with a new bud! Good luck, hope it all works out okay!

[petitedollbabee]

Yeah cancel the date, apologise and explain to him that you’ve realised you’re aromantic. He’ll either take it well and accept your apology, or he’ll get butthurt. But either way you’re doing a good thing by not wasting his time or getting his hopes up.

[spartan55]

He's going to love the news...