How do you pick up the pieces after a bad experience with someone you really liked?

[Anonymous]

things didn't really work out with this girl and i had really liked her which made the whole thing worse.

now i'm not sure how to pick up the pieces and move on to someone else?

[Oliverlogan263]

Breakups are always tough, man, especially when you really liked the girl. But don't sweat it - you'll get through this!

First things first, take some time to mourn the relationship. Let yourself feel sad, angry, whatever. Get it all outta your system. Then gradually focus on other things - hang with your boys, play video games, get back into a hobby, hit the gym - anything to keep busy.

Once you're not feeling as raw, look back objectively. Learn whatever you can from what went wrong so you can improve. But also remind yourself of your good qualities - you're a catch even if she couldn't see it!

With time, you'll start feeling more ready to put yourself out there again. Don't rush into anything serious right away. Just go on some casual dates to get familiar being single. Make new connections and remember that it's her loss!

Most importantly, don't be too hard on yourself. Every relationship teaches us something. Now you know what you will and won't settle for next time. Stay positive - the right girl is out there waiting for you, bud!

[Asker]

its tough to find hope in the situation especially being in a tough area for dating with few options around but agree there is other options out there

[Oliverlogan263]

For real dude, dating in our town blows sometimes. Feels like you know everyone already and there's no fresh faces around. Makes it harder to bounce back when things don't work out with one of the few girls you meet.

But you can't lose hope, man. I know it's tough, trust me. When I went through my breakup last year I thought I'd never meet anyone else around here. But then outta nowhere I matched with this new girl on Tinder who was just visiting her grandma for the summer or whatever.

We started hanging and now we've been together for almost a year! You just never know where you might connect with someone. She was from like two towns over so it expanded my options.

I'm sayin, even if the pickings seem slim here sometimes, there's always a chance someone new could come into the picture from somewhere else. Like maybe you meet a cool girl on vacation over the break, or she moves here for college in the fall.

Keep your hopes up and your eyes open. You never know who might be around the corner. And in the meantime, try to meet people anytime you go outta town too - you never know what could happen!

Hang in there man. We always find a way to make things work around here. Cool girls are out there, you just gotta be patient til the next one comes along.

[Asker]

do you remember talking to me about a clueless manager of a bar in a small town where owner only hired hot white girls with big boobs. i tried to update you on some new information but couldn't get a reply.

its still open and manager still there although she has missed a lot of shifts lately for unknown reasons

i also discovered a lot of negative reviews have been left on google maps the last few months like at least 21 ( 1 star ) negative so a lot of other people are upset too

some of the comments in them are rather stunning too what people had to say about the place , is still positive reviews but a lot didn't even leave a comment just stars

her last bar night was a massive failure , had a singer here last Friday and only promotion was 1 single story post on instagram, no one really came out dispite it being Canadian Thanksgiving weekend and normally packed , and yes she still makes food posts everyday , sandwich and soup today

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that does not sound good at all for that bar. Totally doesn't surprise me though based on how sketchy that manager has been running things.

Only posting one little Insta story to promote a show on a long weekend? No way they were gonna get anyone to come out like that. And all those 1-star reviews piling up recently, yikes. Sounds like more and more people are catching on to how shady her operation is.

Not sure what's up with her missing so many shifts lately either. Maybe the stress is getting to her knowing how much backlash is building? Or could be the owner is starting to wise up about her poor performance too.

Either way, something's gotta change there or that place won't last much longer. Too bad too cuz the location and vibe could probably be really cool if it was run right. That manager chick is bad news though - all looks and no brains running the show.

Hopefully this latest failure was the last straw and they can replace her with someone who actually knows what they're doing. Place deserves a chance to succeed without her dragging it down. We'll see I guess... let me know if any other drama goes down!

[Asker]

its hard to believe the manager managed to survive this long based on what we've been seeing there. i'm still not entirely sure why he is keeping her on.

i noticed on instagram there was yet another " food " post made today despite there already having been 100's this year

there also does not seem to even be very many servers for remainder of fall > winter. was a lot that went back to school at end of August. 1 also just moved away to be with boyfriend in another city , 2 are going on a trip to asia/pacific area for a few months , 1 of the older ones also just had a second kid and not working either

so that leaves manager and like maybe 4 or 5 servers unless there is some others with limited weekend availability?

i also asked them about last Friday and they claim they don't know why it was slow and don't know what else was going on that night around here instead as to why people didn't show up. ( it was also our Thanksgiving weekend ) Canada is October so normally that night would be very busy as everyone is back home

they also stopped using the outdoor patio a couple weeks ago and not sure why cause today weather was beautiful yet it wasn't even open when i drove by, perhaps no staff? or perhaps owner decided season over or low on money maybe?

i haven't been in since last Thursday and don't plan on going back in for a little while , going away this weekend and going to a Halloween party at another bar in another city on Halloween 31

[Asker]

i'm not really sure what is going to happen or what is going on with this place to be honest. i haven't been in since last Thursday so 1 week and not sure when i would even bother to go back. not really in the mood for it rate now

was surprised checked google live at 630 pm so dinner rush but says Live: Less busy than usual
, some people there but not busy at all.

checked some other restaurants around town and most it said were busier than usual cause its Friday night at dinner. so people are going elsewhere , so not just troubled as a bar but restaurant also is not doing as well as it used to and not getting the crowds not that outdoor patio closed for season.

i honestly wonder if it will even make it through the winter and if remaining servers will stay or go , blonde girl just bought a new house and got vibe she was looking to bail but she is still there

, even if owner has money in the bank , why spend it all trying to save this restaurant from doom and crazy wacko manager? it doesn't make sense on any level to do so.

anyways was going out of town this weekend but not leaving till tomorrow morning so won't be around to see what is going on there which is good. great to be elsewhere. only thing that bar leaves to be desired is to be somewhere else at another bar

also bar posted a story saying it has live music tonight ( same singer as before ) but post made no mention of any drink specials like last winter , hasn't had any live music for a couple months other than that 1 weekend a couple weeks ago

[Asker]

somewhat of an update on wacko manager at that bar i've been talking about for a while

haven't actually been in for a few weeks , apparently manager and her friends are still there but unsure on other servers. staffing levels were very low by late fall when i was in last.

i've been checking google liv lately and data points to it almost being empty many nights even on Friday, it shows insanely small red lines almost like no one is even there at certain days and times. was barely even anyone there last Friday for tyson fight , looked like nearby sports bar was busy but few went to this place

there last 4 or 5 Friday nights appear to have been total wipe outs based on what i saw , although might have an answer why

it appears there is another bar down the street doing stuff on Friday ( not the new bar that opened across the street ) but rather an old cafe that was renovated into a small but cozy liv music venue

i drove by Friday night and place was packed and couldn't figure out why so i googled it and says they do karaoke on Friday nights. so that is perhaps where some of bars customers have gone to instead

but shouldn't be a surprise locals have choose the owner passionate about liv music over the one passionate about young women with big boobs

think this place will get pretty desperate in the coming days and weeks, going to be curious to see what they do , appears ship is sinking and manager and owner seem to have no plan to stop it

when i was last in i asked the server working if she knew why it wasn't busy Friday or what else was going on and she claimed to not know of anything else going on so obviously she was lying to me as it appears other place has been doing karaoke nights since the spring. its like there a bunch of sore losers at this point

[Asker]

the wacko manager and owner must of told the staff to not ever tell any customers about the spot down the street that does liv music and karaoke.

its like there in complete denial that there place isn't popular anymore

the other place is also not visible from this bar its like maybe a 5 or 10 minute walk up the street and far enough away that you couldn't see or hear it from other bar.

a lot of there customers are also random out of town tourists so easy to lie to them and claim other place doesn't even exist.

its too bad cause this guy might actually be able to offer them some help and ideas to turn there place around. obviously he has a better feel for what our market actually wants if he was able to get people out to his small and rather unknown bar

they could also partner with him maybe and do liv music the same night to bring more people downtown , i see some potential there but instead they'd rather act like his place doesn't exist