How can I encourage guys to approach me?

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone! I’m 26 years old and have never been in a relationship. I’ve noticed that guys rarely approach me, and when I take the initiative, they often seem shy or awkward. I want to create an environment where guys feel comfortable approaching me or asking for my number. What do you think? How can I make it easier for someone to connect with me? I’d love to hear your thoughts and suggestions!

[ohsheeT]

The 100% yourself do not be loud and obnoxious to be seen just be yourself when you communicate look into the eyes and listen to their words because just because they're asking you out doesn't mean that you want to actually go out with him and their words will tell you that by the way that they use them and what they're telling you and what they're not telling you but you just have to be yourself be beautiful on the inside that radiates to the outside be kind just be yourself be happy and smile don't try to be anybody else

[Anonymous]

Hard to say an out knowing you. A lot of people don’t really look at theirselves from a neutral position. Meaning have an honest conversation about yourself w yourself about what you could change. Most men aren’t that hard to stir up a conversation w. Have you had trauma growing up? What type of men do you approach? A lot of women regardless of how pretty or ugly they are always go for top tier men. So if that’s you, not being the best looking female if you are, you might have to lower your standards. Most women find about 80% of men unattractive. So when women complain there’s no good men out there, it’s because they’re dismissing more than half the men out there.

[Kelley1]

All that is required is that you smile and say, "Hi." If you do that while claiming guys are not approaching you, then you are seeking guys way out of your league. Therefore, in your mind, all the guys approaching you don't count.

[Finchie40]

Stop waiting for them to come to you , if you like a guy and you are attracted to a guy , Go for it , don’t wait for him To make the first move , it’s ok for a girl to ask a guy out and show interest in him first ,

[Anonymous]

It's like Elon Musk said fewer people care about procreation and dating nowadays everything is mostly boring and miserable. People want to travel in space and explore the world beyond this planet. So sorry to say it, but you're going to have to do the approaching and put yourself out there more because a lot people men and women don't really have as much interest in those things anymore. Plus, the guy might be scared of approaching because he might not be sure if you will view it as sexual harassment.

[Lliam]

You sound really sweet and it's cool that you like guys. I love your attitude. You are willing to take initiative.

I think @chilldude33 had some great advice.

I wonder what your hair and clothing styles look like. Of course you should be true to yourself but what do you do to look attractive? A tasteful bit of makeup is nice, but don't overdo it.
Great posture is very attractive.

[chilldude33]

Reverse engineer it. Imagine that you are a guy. Imagine you just approached a girl. Now ask yourself why. What made you do that?

Or you could imagine this scenario from the third person observer pov. Imagine you observed a guy approach a girl. Ask yourself what made him do that? Ask yourself in which cases he wouldn't approach her?

That's how you find the variables that make things go one way or the other.

[Lliam]

That's good advice.

[RavVid]

Being friendly really helps to reduce impedance. Repeat contact helps because that is giving time to decide if they like you and it is easier to ask someone out if you have some familiarity with them.

It also helps if you indicate what you like doing. If you tell me you like seeing movies at the cinema than it is easier for me to ask if you like to see a movie with me.

Fact is that it has been made to be akin to rape for a guy to ask a girl out... or at least it feels like it.

[ProbablyClueless]

All you can do is smile at people and position yourself to make it easy to talk to you. Also, be sure to participate in the conversations.

I've had a number of situations where I'll start a conversation with women who I thought were interested in talking with me, but they give me the driest, most boring answers when I do.

[paledreams]

Lady 👠 join the club of people who, now look paledreams here has gone over 12 years since I've been 18 in 2012, and a woman has never ever flirted with me, asked me if I'm doing anything Sunday night, etc etc etc. It's almost like I should've had greater odds become a millionaire by now. 😢😛🥤🫣

[paledreams]

Or the other way around - women , why you no desperate lol 😆😆😆 my deliberate joke humour lol 😆 they don't want paledreams of the types of woman paledreams wants lol 😆 ♀️♀️♀️ onward and whatever merrily well

[DannyUk2017]

Just go with the Flow.. Clear your mind and Act from Instinct! Don't preplan anything ahead as it can come crasging down/backfire on you/both of you...

[SiegmundWalsung]

Most people become attracted to each other through mutual friends.

If you're just approaching randos or expecting randos to approach you, there's your issue.

[paledreams]

Hollywood has been lying to us lol 😭😆 in fiction lol 😆😆😆😆

[Grond21]

Watch the Matthew Hussey video on being easy. He addresses this exact question, and he is very respectful in helping women be more approachable to good men.

[In_Trance]

There's a 100% chance you're not giving guys the right signs

[OddBeMe]

I would say- as an introvert- creating that comfort would be impossible. We’re not built like that.

[Anonymous]

You need to recon them. Guys are not shy if genuinely talk about what interests them.

[MasterKS]

be smart and take the steps if you wait you never get one!

[Anonymous]

You should take initiative and approach them.

[Pohjolan]

You could try waving at them.

[Anonymous]

Have you tried flashing your tits?

[Anonymous]

Different things.

[Anonymous]

have you tried online dating or dating apps?