Asked guy to get tested?

[Anonymous]

I met with guy from dating app. We kissed few times and I asked him to get tested for stds. He got tested and everything was negative and okay. But he tested to only 7 viruses, and I asked to take another 3 that he missed.
And I actually don’t know why I’m asking cause I am not sure if I want to sleep with him lol. And I’m still virgin and should I try with him or not? I don’t think he’s perfect match for me, but should I continue to wait for some perfect guy or just try? Or it will not worth it? Cause he’s super broke and recently lost job, and the only thing he can offer is being kind?😭

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But he’s so kind. Not forcing me to have sex because he got tested. But he can meet any new girl and show results.
And also I was asking about things I was worried about and he kept saying that I will someone else who’s better. So he doesn’t have any desire to keep in touch and doesn’t want to try to fix things.

[ohsheeT]

Wait wait wait wait he came up with 7 viruses those are seven things you don't want you don't even want one of them

And if you were to get one of those it leads to other things and then you pass it on no no no no

Look you are a much stronger person to me because I have a 16 and a half and I had to find out what it was all about and I got lucky because the girl was 19 and I learned a very valuable lesson because we did it she said it was good I thought it was no good we did it three more times the next two times we're just as bad as the first time she said it was good I said no we're supposed to see fireworks LOL

At least that's what I understand we're supposed to do on the fourth time her mom is leaving on Saturday I went there we talked she said not to worry about it she thought it was good our first three times but this time I changed everything up I made it all about her everything I did I made about her and this time when we were finished we both saw fireworks

The thing is I thought for sure I was going to go to hell the first time and then it was not even good sex so I was upset about that but the fourth time I learned something very valuable and that is make it about the person you're with it changes everything and I've carried that with me from then all the way to this day

Of the 16 and a half I didn't think about diseases or viruses and I got lucky because I've never had anything

So what I'm saying is if you do it with this guy the odds of you getting a viral sexual disease could happen and if he's no good in bed they're straight too and if he doesn't give you an orgasm there's strike three

I was in too much of a hurry and the only thing good that came out of it was I got to actually do it four times and I taught myself something by doing it the way that I did it

But I would say 7 out of 10 guys are probably selfish or they don't know what they're doing

And if you're going to give up your virginity it needs to be with the right person I would think you would want.
And that was very smart move by asking him to get tested he needed to know so he doesn't transmit any of those to anybody else I can't tell you what to do but you should be a little bit more patient and just wait maybe

[Oliverlogan263]

This is a tricky situation for sure. On one hand, it was good of him to get tested and show you the results to make you feel comfortable. That shows he wants to be responsible at least.

But I understand your concerns too. If you're not 100% sure about him as your first time, then maybe it's better to wait for someone you're really into and have a connection with. Losing your virginity is a big deal!

About continuing to talk to him, I dunno if I'd keep investing time if he's saying negative things like you'll find someone better. That's not how you make a girl feel special.

And his current job/money issues would probably make starting a relationship kind of stressful too. You want someone with their stuff together who can treat you right.

My advice would be end things politely but for yourself. You seem hesitant already, so follow your gut here. There's no need to rush with your first time. Wait for the right guy who you click with emotionally and physically. This dude doesn't sound like the one. Stay positive - I'm sure you'll find Mr. Perfect when you least expect it!

[SweetPi]

Girl wait it feels like a big hole that needs filling so lonely and you just want to...

From a girl that gave in!

Wait not this guy! Super broke and no job! He will be the worst one!

Also with testing see the results cause men love lying about these things.

My sister had 4 guys just tell her that they are clean she believed them and now well.

Her kids have 2 kinds of aids from her! Just from being born!

Your amazing let him be kind but no sex tell him no sex please! Just friends no benefits!

Kind of wonderful but not sex worthy

[SweetPi]

If he won't stay in touch then let him go! Don't be desperate and he probably has another girl he is in bed with already!

[IslaTheWitch]

doing it with someone who is close to you emotionally is a different dimension... so if you don't love him and don't even think about him as a match... don't do it with him...

[ProbablyClueless]

Asking for someone to get tested is extremely normal and reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Why dare a guy who doesn’t have a job?