Girls, Do you test men?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[giftedsub]

I used to but I had a lot of underlying issues I needed to work on. I mostly just tried to find reasons to be like “see! I knew it all along you were a bad guy” I had a lot of fatherless behavior and burned a lot of potential relationships with great guys that way.

[BlackRose97]

It's human nature, so most of it is subconscious. My boyfriend pointed out some examples and I never really looked at them as tests, per se, but in the end that's what they still amount to. We're supposed to make sure the guys in our lives are fit for the task. Otherwise we end up with weirdos or weaklings. Which meant death in the wild. In modern society it just means having a lame relationship.

[BlackRose97]

Update on the idea of it being subconscious. A lot of women don't realize that bullying their SO is a form of testing. They know they would never treat a stranger in real life with that kind of disrespect because it would put their safety at risk. Especially to another woman. But with their SO, they feel they are safe to treat me like a jerk and if he stands up for himself, he passes the test. But her safety wasn't on the line. And when he fails the test of standing up for himself, she knows that he can't be trusted to protect her from threats.

[JaneDoe95676187]

Shit testing is necessary for any kind of relationship

[Agape93]

Nope. I'm not a child.

[LiaRaven]

Thats pathetic

[Anonymous]

It's a need