Do guys test girls?

[Curiositykilledcat7]

Sometimes I feel like I’m being tested to see if I am submissive enough or how much they can get away with what is a tactic or testers one that you’ve used before

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I think it’s reasonable to test people can easily be misleading so I’m not judging it but if you want to know if someone’s worth your time, I think it’s totally acceptable to see if that person is full of it

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+1 y

what about if she is willing to sleep with you early and says yes to anything in the bedroom would you test to see how easy she is

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Thank you for all the comments :) helps me heaps

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Not really. At least not as much as I think women do. I know I speak for myself when I say that if I'm with a woman, I see everything as a test and the only "tests" I'm doing are occasional ones that I've learned over time to do.

Like I might have her come out with me on a night I need to make some kind of connection and I'll be less attentitave to her, and very focused on my goals for the night. I'll intentionally try to hide the fact I'm paying her any mind to see if she gets emotional and our plan of attack for the night falls apart or if she can keep focused because she trusts me.

Bringing her to see my family is a test too I guess. My family is extremely loving but also incredibly hard to get along with for an extended period of time. If she can get along with them, I know that's just another tool we have to keep a healthy relationship. That and I believe in family.

To me, it's more about how you react to things that are happening naturally. I want to know if the woman is someone who can adapt to and embrace my approach at life.

[RingOfFire]

"Sometimes I feel like I’m being tested to see if I am submissive enough or how much they can get away with what is a tactic or testers one that you’ve used before"

The fact that you ever even feel this way shows that you ARE submissive. It's not normal to even think that way.

MAN UP! 🤓

[Pacquet]

Men don’t test but we pay close attention to how people act over time. It’s more in a women’s nature to test a man’s resolve so she can discern her survival and safety. These attributes are evolutionary tools men and women have developed over time, although “testing” can yield inaccurate results.

[Pacquet]

I read your update and it doesn’t change anything. In general men aren’t testing for behavior of any sort because retrieving information in such a manner doesn’t serve our analysis of someone like it may women.

Testing is nearly an innate trait in women especially when it comes to their sexual proclivities. Sex comes at a higher risk for women with pregnancy and the risk of the man not sticking around to raise the child so subconsciously women will test to measure a man’s demeanor to mitigate her risk. This is psychology 101 but it seems like you want to believe you’re being tested, maybe you’re leaving out needed context but the answer still stands.

[femalepretzelmaker]

Guys are testing you.
They want to know what your intentions are as well.
We don't want to waste our time either and you can change your mind anytime you want as well

[Curiositykilledcat7]

what type of test have you used

[femalepretzelmaker]

Let her do exactly what she wants and see what she does

[femalepretzelmaker]

Shameck is that you?

[XD_BREEZY]

Men usually don’t test women lol, if he is testing you he’s probably insecure about something and you should probably run away fast. Men 9 x out 10 already know what they want. Usually it’s women who do the testing but like I said their are those 1 percent of men that do

[Lliam]

I never did. I wasn't paranoid and don't like mind games. I just observed.
No girlfriend ever tested either.

[dynamicyandere]

I don’t go out of my way to create tests.


I’m just very observant.


Circumstances and situations naturally occur on their own — I just pay close attention to how they react and respond.

[OfMiceandMen]

I don't test women, I figure things will come out in the wash at the time.

[TheSpaceGnome]

The only worthwhile test is time spent together. Trying to be manipulative isn't a test, its just being an ass.

[jb2622]

Well said takes time to see who someone is and not who they pretend to be.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@jb2622 Exactly.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@jb2622 I've found that at most, it usually takes about 3 years of daily interactions to expose any pretending.

[TheSpaceGnome]

@Curiositykilledcat7 In regards to the update, I wouldn't let her have sex with me early.

[shades777]

i wouldn't call it a test because im not in school but a man generally already knows what he wants so its just a checklist

[jb2622]

I think most more or less just see how women react. like how they treat wait staff and the like. If you want to call that a test maybe or just getting to know someone.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I don't test. Anyone over 20 doing that ought to be single.

[Amur8711]

I test sometimes to see how much they actually like me. If I am always the one initiating the conversation after a while I start to wander if she actually likes me. So I won't reply at times in hopes she messages first.

[Amur8711]

I know a girl thats extremely submissive and obedient. For whatever reason, almost everything I came up with in our sexts she was wanting because I asked her.

[Christoff92]

Yeh. I do. Want to see her honest and personal traits. One word called double standard is a difference.

[Friendlybro79]

I'm sure many people regardless being a man or woman do this.

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Yes guys do especially when they it option to be sure they're choosing right it's subconscious behaviour

[DrewJohnson]

I don't like "testing" bring honest and straight forward is easier.

[Blueeyes81]

Testing is a tactic of women. Most men don't roll that way.

[Nifrayu]

I have no idea. I've never done this.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Subconsciously

[Curiositykilledcat7]

give me an example

[Opinion Owner]

I'll ask her if she needs anything and if it's obvious she is after money I don't bother with her

[Avicenna]

No doubt some play those sorts of games

[BigDog1989]

Just as girls test guys

[Iron_Man]

Not me nope

[In_Trance]

Rarely