
- You damn right I do! And I have no shame in asking him that. If he wants it bad enough, and doesn't have anything to hide, what's the issue?
I certainly don't mind proving to anyone I'm clean before sleeping with him. The least he can do is let me know he's clean as well.
I'm just going to be real: there's a lot of diseases out there. And some people don't care who they expose as long as they're sexually fulfilled. I rather be safe than sorry, thanks.
And before someone says, "Wear a condom!" Guess what...
They can break!!! That and there's other ways to get exposed besides just sex. So am I going to chance it? Not if I can help it.3|20|0Is this still revelant?Amen! It's scary & shocking to me how many people on here have been ignorant of the process or think that they are somehow such a miraculous judge of character, this question is unnecessary and offensive to their psychic abilities. Adult men & women putting themselves at risk for their pride, because they're embarrassed to bring it or because they believe that emotional attachment & stds are mutually exclusive. You never know what has happened in the past, I know people who have been infected on their 1st time or during an assault. The idea that only promiscuous or irresponsible people can get a life-changing disease is ignorant and insulting to the poor people who have been infected in scenarios they had no control over.
@jessacat83 Exactly!!! I'm reading some of these comments and I'm just floored at the ignorance. It only takes ONE mistake to get infected or worse. All because they're trying to get into someone's pants, or they're too proud to take a simple test. It's sad really.
If a guy refuses to take an STD test to show me he's clean, then he doesn't have any respect for me or himself.
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- Why did this question make this song pop in my head 😂https://www.youtube.com/embed/387ZDGSKVSgIf people don't they either probably should or wait awhile before sex and use condoms till you know it's all good to go, and they just"going" with just you...0|20|0Is this still revelant?
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- Yup, every time and she should be glad your being safe and responsible. The timing of that conversation is crucial though lol and it’s always a bit uncomfortable and usually when the evening is heading that direction. But I’m not gonna play Russian roulette with my dick for a girl and possibly get a permanent STD just for one night of not controlling myself you know what I mean0|00|0Is this still revelant?
- No. I offer to get STD tested and tell them that I want them to be comfortable with me when that time arrives. Then I look at them with an expectant look and I wait for them to respond. I have been tested fie or six times in the last 14 years and all were negative. Since my partners are post-menopausal, that means no condoms are needed and sex is more spontaneous and more fun.1|40|0Is this still revelant?
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2943- Yes.
I always give my results and ask hers if she talks about discarding the condom.0|20|0 - Yes but only once. Typically I just use condoms instead.0|00|0
- I was going to go out with a gyno from colombia once until she sent me a list of all the things I needed to be tested for. Sooooo... I got tested. I'm clean. But the whole thing just made me lose interest. I went out with the woman I met at the grocery store and to this day I have no regrets.0|00|0
- Yes. I have also stopped being okay with just asking the generic, how many partners and when was the last time you were tested. Funny enough some people can really be going out there with test results from 3 partners ago.
Nope. Nada. You ask, what date did you get your last test AND how many partners have you had since then. If they can't give you a straight answer, and at least feel a little guilty they put it off so long, thats a hard pass.0|00|0 - 'Yes' and I ALSO took the equivalent test.
... we MAY NOT know where we're together heading BUT...
EACH deserves to know with certainty where one another has been~
NO 'surprises'
(In earlier life, I once got genital warts from a friends with benefits for NOT testing.
Liquid Nitrogen to have them removed; NO fun!) :(0|00|0 - No.
I never would have gotten one either.
I've never been tested my entire life for an STD. If someone I was dating asked for that I would just have said no.
If we break up we break up. I am not having medical exams done that I otherwise never would have done just because some dating mate had told me too.0|00|0 - No I do that covertly.. I ask if they like to donate blood. If not then I try to get them to give it a try. I love donating blood. Have since I could at the age of 17. I have my 4 gallon pin. No I have not slept with that many ladies. I couldn't give that much of my heart away and still live. That's about the only way I can think of aside from just asking.0|00|0
- It's the wise thing to do unless you want to read the bad results of your own test on your phone later. If the guy is really into you he won't mind, but if he just wants to fuck you he will resist it.
What? That ass hole!! 0|00|0 - Absolutely. I've asked everyone I'm dating for a clean std screening before we become intimate & I gladly provide them with the same, along with documentation that I'm currently on birth control, if they'd like that, too.2|20|0
- Really how do you get honest results? Medical tests are confidential and you can't call the doctor and just ask.
All the times I've been tested, I never got a print out either... I get a phone call saying, your good nothing to worry about.
I suppose if you really like someone you probably trust each other then to be honest.0|00|0You can request a printout or link to the test results from the doctor or office staff & they'll be happy to oblige you; they're accustomed to it. I've always just obtained a copy of the results & exchanged the paper with my partner. You have to be cooperative & not embarrassed to discuss these things if you want to be sure your health is continually protected.
- Yes but I went and got one done to prove I'm safe and lead by example. I've always been proactive in making sure I'm safe and wearing condoms. Men can be weird about getting themselves checked.
They actually think you're weird for asking things like that. But they think its OK to throw around accusations like that.1|10|0 - I don't have sex with people who sleep around.
Or I wear a condom and ask when they got a test.
Overall, I don't sleep around, so I'm not too concerned.0|00|0 - Of course you ask! Better safe than sorry and your setting a respect for yourself. If a guy cannot and will not do one, well where’s the respect and consideration on his end? It’s not something personal against him it’s a matter of precaution and safety0|00|0
- I feel like you and your partner should always be tested1|40|0
- My old roommate use to do this
He showed me his results saying he always keeps them in hand
New one every couple weeks
Just like pornstars1|10|0 - I’ve been thinking about getting tested in a whim. But I’ve limited my sexual partners enough I’m clean and I know it.0|00|0
- Yes definitely, there are far too many things around.
nothing spoils a relationship like genital warts0|10|0 - Yesss I have to and I found it weird when the guy would make a big deal about it so I just didn’t do it with him cause u not about to give me no stds😭0|20|0
- I have never asked any to be tested. I have been asked many times. So I am regularly tested and keep a copy of my results in the truck. It’s just so much easier that way.0|00|0
- Didn't ask for an STD test but we usually use condoms for a while and when we decide to stop wearing condoms that's when we both do an STD test.0|10|0
- No, but I did ask her for an Ebola and cholera test after returning from relief work in Africa.0|00|0
- Yes. This is reasonable to ask and for your partner to ask you too. It’s safe for both sides.0|00|0
- Anonymous10 dYep, that's just the smart thing to do. If the person gets offended by that and/or refuses to get tested, they can go have sex with someone else. Not gonna be me.0|00|0
- I think to do that😆
But I'm single for now
And my ex was virgin just like mee (that we still are)
So never got chance to ask that
But really find it funny and serious at the same time0|00|0 - In Every relationship! No sex without a full std physical.0|10|1
- Yep! Always do. It still seems kind of taboo for some reason but it's something that seriously needs to be normalized.0|10|0
- Oh yeah. I make sure we both get tested before anything happens0|10|0
- No but given how much of a whore everyone is these days is it's probably not a bad idea.0|00|0
- Anonymous10 dI've never done it because I've never dated. But I thought about doing it once I get a boyfriend. I would also take a test so he knows I'm clean.0|00|0
- I haven’t because I’ve only been with one person, but if I were back in the pool I would for sure ask. No hesitation. Asking for an std test from a new partner is just smart.0|10|0
- Yes i have, especially if i found out that that person had unprotected sex ever in her history.0|20|0
- Anonymous10 dLol this question amuses me because i worked with a woman who woyld do this with every guy finally one night she decided to skip her little rule and what happens? She catches the Blickey. Lmao0|00|0
- No I don’t get involved with that Wham Bam thank you ma’am lifestyle0|00|0
- I have been particularly choosey as to whom I have sex with. I don't do random and I don't do prostitutes.0|10|0
- Nothing wrong with both parties getting tested. Better safe than sorry. I would definitely ask him to test if we are in a casual or serious relationship. Let's make it a date... Afterwards "Let's party all night long!" LOL!0|10|0
- Nope because I have never been with anybody, but I wouldn't mind telling my future girlfriend.0|10|0
- I would expect them to tell me and if they don’t and I do catch it you will bet I’m taking legal action against their asses.1|20|0
- One girl asked me to do that. We went down and got tested together. It wasn't an unreasonable request. Not a bad idea.0|10|0
- This is low key not asked much, but is so important that This is what that's supposed to be normalized!0|10|0
- I figure it's the first thing I'm gonna do before losing it. Both of us getting tested.0|00|0
- well... I am 70, my "thang" isn't wild anymore, but I love the question0|00|0
- No but I really should have... Sometimes I allow my Pussy to think for me and yea... It’s EXTREMELY important to verify before engaging it it.0|20|0
- Yes. That is a pre-requisit! I myself get tested regularly.0|10|0
- Nope 👎 takes all the fun out of hooking up
#nomorecondoms#cowards0|12|1 - I would not date anyone who would cause me to ask for such a thing !0|00|1
- It’s a requirement before we even kiss.2|31|0
- I got asked to take one because the last girl I dated was a virgin until I came along and I didn’t mind because I wanted to make her more comfortable0|10|0
- Yes. I also asked for a printout of the results signed by the doctor, and a phone number to call to verify authenticity. I've asked both guys and girls and if they dont want to, then i move on.1|00|0
How would you call, as medical results are confidential and it would be violating laws if the doctor told you.
Verifing authenticity of the document doesn't violate HIPPA laws. Verification was also only given with approval from the patient that provided the document. Meaning, he/she hands me the paper with the phone number, i call with them present, they verify their identity and give authorization for the information, the doctor says "yes the document is true and the date is current." And then its done.
- always... when we both get tested we are safe0|10|0
- Anonymous9 dYes but then I found out he was a virgin0|10|0
- ofcourse I would go with them0|00|0
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