Have you ever asked someone you are dating for an STD test before doing the Wild Thang?

[coachTanthony]

[Cynicaldreamer]

You damn right I do! And I have no shame in asking him that. If he wants it bad enough, and doesn't have anything to hide, what's the issue?

I certainly don't mind proving to anyone I'm clean before sleeping with him. The least he can do is let me know he's clean as well.

I'm just going to be real: there's a lot of diseases out there. And some people don't care who they expose as long as they're sexually fulfilled. I rather be safe than sorry, thanks.

And before someone says, "Wear a condom!" Guess what...
They can break!!! That and there's other ways to get exposed besides just sex. So am I going to chance it? Not if I can help it.

[coachTanthony]

I agree. Why risk the bisquit? :+)-

[jessacat83]

Amen! It's scary & shocking to me how many people on here have been ignorant of the process or think that they are somehow such a miraculous judge of character, this question is unnecessary and offensive to their psychic abilities. Adult men & women putting themselves at risk for their pride, because they're embarrassed to bring it or because they believe that emotional attachment & stds are mutually exclusive. You never know what has happened in the past, I know people who have been infected on their 1st time or during an assault. The idea that only promiscuous or irresponsible people can get a life-changing disease is ignorant and insulting to the poor people who have been infected in scenarios they had no control over.

[Cynicaldreamer]

@jessacat83 Exactly!!! I'm reading some of these comments and I'm just floored at the ignorance. It only takes ONE mistake to get infected or worse. All because they're trying to get into someone's pants, or they're too proud to take a simple test. It's sad really.

If a guy refuses to take an STD test to show me he's clean, then he doesn't have any respect for me or himself.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Why did this question make this song pop in my head 😂

https://www.youtube.com/embed/387ZDGSKVSg

If people don't they either probably should or wait awhile before sex and use condoms till you know it's all good to go, and they just"going" with just you...

[coachTanthony]

Ha Ha ha because it's a classic... HOLLA lol

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

For $50 Dolla😂😂

[coachTanthony]

Ha Ha Ha so cheap for 1985

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

LOL..

[HeyMikeyLikesIt]

Yup, every time and she should be glad your being safe and responsible. The timing of that conversation is crucial though lol and it’s always a bit uncomfortable and usually when the evening is heading that direction. But I’m not gonna play Russian roulette with my dick for a girl and possibly get a permanent STD just for one night of not controlling myself you know what I mean

[OlderAndWiser]

No. I offer to get STD tested and tell them that I want them to be comfortable with me when that time arrives. Then I look at them with an expectant look and I wait for them to respond. I have been tested fie or six times in the last 14 years and all were negative. Since my partners are post-menopausal, that means no condoms are needed and sex is more spontaneous and more fun.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Yes.
I always give my results and ask hers if she talks about discarding the condom.

[Apope16]

Yes but only once. Typically I just use condoms instead.

[jessacat83]

Absolutely. I've asked everyone I'm dating for a clean std screening before we become intimate & I gladly provide them with the same, along with documentation that I'm currently on birth control, if they'd like that, too.

[lilyanony1]

Yes but I went and got one done to prove I'm safe and lead by example. I've always been proactive in making sure I'm safe and wearing condoms. Men can be weird about getting themselves checked.
They actually think you're weird for asking things like that. But they think its OK to throw around accusations like that.

[Hermes-Paris]

I was going to go out with a gyno from colombia once until she sent me a list of all the things I needed to be tested for. Sooooo... I got tested. I'm clean. But the whole thing just made me lose interest. I went out with the woman I met at the grocery store and to this day I have no regrets.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Yes. I have also stopped being okay with just asking the generic, how many partners and when was the last time you were tested. Funny enough some people can really be going out there with test results from 3 partners ago.

Nope. Nada. You ask, what date did you get your last test AND how many partners have you had since then. If they can't give you a straight answer, and at least feel a little guilty they put it off so long, thats a hard pass.

[TheorionMage]

'Yes' and I ALSO took the equivalent test.
... we MAY NOT know where we're together heading BUT...
EACH deserves to know with certainty where one another has been~

NO 'surprises'
(In earlier life, I once got genital warts from a friends with benefits for NOT testing.
Liquid Nitrogen to have them removed; NO fun!) :(

[InsanityIncarnate]

No I do that covertly.. I ask if they like to donate blood. If not then I try to get them to give it a try. I love donating blood. Have since I could at the age of 17. I have my 4 gallon pin. No I have not slept with that many ladies. I couldn't give that much of my heart away and still live. That's about the only way I can think of aside from just asking.

[Daniela1982]

It's the wise thing to do unless you want to read the bad results of your own test on your phone later. If the guy is really into you he won't mind, but if he just wants to fuck you he will resist it.

What? That ass hole!!

[Lyndsielee666]

I feel like you and your partner should always be tested

[Miristheiss]

No.
I never would have gotten one either.
I've never been tested my entire life for an STD. If someone I was dating asked for that I would just have said no.
If we break up we break up. I am not having medical exams done that I otherwise never would have done just because some dating mate had told me too.

[Dragonpurple]

Really how do you get honest results? Medical tests are confidential and you can't call the doctor and just ask.

All the times I've been tested, I never got a print out either... I get a phone call saying, your good nothing to worry about.

I suppose if you really like someone you probably trust each other then to be honest.

[jessacat83]

You can request a printout or link to the test results from the doctor or office staff & they'll be happy to oblige you; they're accustomed to it. I've always just obtained a copy of the results & exchanged the paper with my partner. You have to be cooperative & not embarrassed to discuss these things if you want to be sure your health is continually protected.

[pigoat]

My old roommate use to do this

He showed me his results saying he always keeps them in hand

New one every couple weeks

Just like pornstars

[DAsk04]

Of course you ask! Better safe than sorry and your setting a respect for yourself. If a guy cannot and will not do one, well where’s the respect and consideration on his end? It’s not something personal against him it’s a matter of precaution and safety

[ChrisMaster69]

Yes definitely, there are far too many things around.

nothing spoils a relationship like genital warts

[SavageGirl101]

Yesss I have to and I found it weird when the guy would make a big deal about it so I just didn’t do it with him cause u not about to give me no stds😭

[sheikalana]

Didn't ask for an STD test but we usually use condoms for a while and when we decide to stop wearing condoms that's when we both do an STD test.

[meetkitty123]

In Every relationship! No sex without a full std physical.

[Nick568]

Yep! Always do. It still seems kind of taboo for some reason but it's something that seriously needs to be normalized.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Oh yeah. I make sure we both get tested before anything happens