How do you respectfully ask a partner about their STD/STI testing?

[Anonymous]

Do you still ask?

Updates

4 mo

Asking someone new

[Screenwriter]

If you're about to have sex with someone, this isn't about respect, it's about taking care of yourself. For extra safe sex if you're going to be exclusive partners you should both decide to be tested for STIs before anything happens. Then there's no anxiety.

If you can't have such a discussion, then you shouldn't have sex.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

The last time, which was 27 years ago, I didn't really ask, it just seemed natural for us to go for a test, together. The only time of my life I thought it was romantic to go to the hospital 😂

After this event, it never occurred to me again to think about STI tests, I've been involved in long term relationships only. But if I wanted to, I would simply talk about it. It would be just one of the many topics we talk about. Nothing to fear here.

[MrHopper]

Just ask them, bring it up in conversation about your self, its not a big deal to do and if they run a mile... well that answers that one

[Agape93]

I tell em that we don't even kiss until they get it done and I see the official results.

[Abbycado]

You just say both of you need to be tested before anything happens, you included. Fair.

[AngryCarl3]

So, do you have sexually transmitted diseases or what? You don't? Can I see some proof?

[slatyb]

I would if I were about to have unprotected sex with someone I recently met.

[In_Trance]

If the tables were turned how would you want them to ask you?

[Jeff51]

If dating then ask her.