Why do women always say every guy they've ever been with is perfect until they've broken up?

[Anonymous]

Almost every girl I ever talked to said a guy they dated was perfect, or they learned how to love from, but as soon as they broke u, p, all I heard notorieties of abuse.

[petitedollbabee]

Rose tinted glasses is the saying. You don’t realise how screwed up the relationship is until you’re looking at it from the outside, but while you’re in it, things feel great. Some people (not just women) don’t understand that they’re experiencing abuse until they’re no longer experiencing it.

[Simslover92]

Not me. He wasn't perfect but he wasn't a bad guy either and I would never vilify him because he was a great boyfriend.

[MisterWack]

Because they genuinely felt love and heartache from breakup really takes a mental toll on you, making you feel that you aren’t good enough & that there is no one out there for you. It is heartbreaking.

It feels you were close to a special fling then it is all stripped away…. It sucks, though it is a normal human thing that everyone who truly falls in love goes through when it doesn’t work out. Have compassion, empathy, and see things from their perspective.

[PeachyPie93]

Sometimes you know a guy is shit but you love them so you lie or make things seem nicer then they actually are so people don't judge you or ask you why are you with him? Other times it's because you don't realize the mess they are because you have love blinders on. So you don't see it until its over and you really examine them, their behaviours and what really went wrong with you both.

[liabalia]

I had this experience recently. I think for me, it’s the fact that I saw everything through rose colored glasses. I missed so many signs and then one day he just broke up/ghosted with me. Meanwhile I thought we were on track to be together for a while. Couldn’t even make it to one year with me. And later on, I learned of him cheating on me

[Nikki1989]

Looking back on a past relationship with rose-colored glasses can make it seem more perfect than it actually was.

[Tomisworthless]

If the sex is great or he is high value then they will ignore or justify the abuse, i always said women have fake standards. Like for eg : They think cigarettes are gross and the user too unless he's someone she wants then she wouldn't dare to offend his habit and call it gross because he himself isn't gross

[DtMe89]

The same reason men think women are. We see what's on the surface, only to then find out they're just another POS

[RageBabe]

They took the rose-coloured glasses off and stopped idolising them, maybe. 🤔

[RageBabe]

I don’t speak ill of my ex’s.

[LostandFound__x]

Because when we like someone we become delusional. The common sense kicks in later.

[DrPepper12]

I've never known a woman to say that. That's crazy and logically inconsistent - they're broken up for a reason.

[Shihab_91]

Well i guess because everything was perfect until something happens?

[StBerryPi]

Cause your a guy!

If you were a girl! Wow the stories you would hear before they broke up.

Really she did not want you flirting or trying with her in any way. So she is happy don't bug and ruin her day.

[Asker]

I was in a relationship at the time and heard theses stores after they broke up

[StBerryPi]

Then rose colored glasses or she did not want to share with you. Till she wanted to rant away

[noohair]

I think women grow up get have Prince Charming syndrome. And we all know that no one is perfect.

[Anonymous]

I hate to tell you this but many guys are the same way!

[Crazzyyworld]

There is no perfect man. If there is they are lying.

[NathanDavis]

they've never said that about me...

[AmyHew1tt]

Never heard anyone say that, but okay.

[paledreams]

Yeah I'd say that's a decent commentary 😃

[MoonFace2]

People idealise their relationships.

[Radiate143]

No woman says that.