Am I prudish for hating when a man I’m dating slaps my butt in public?

[Anonymous]

I hate when men I’m seeing slaps my butt in the wide open public haha. The last few guys I’ve dated was like this. I’m like can you wait til we’re in a secluded corner? Is that prudish?

Yesterday I’m in a date and we’re axe throwing and I got a good score so he slapped my butt loud and hard. I turned around and was like “stoppp haha” and he said no one was looking🙄

I like a little pda but sort of lowkey

[Anonymous]

A woman did that once to me. I wasn't sure how to feel about it. I didn't really want it. But I did take it as a compliment of sorts.

I don't think there's anything wrong with not liking it. But I think if you don't want it to persist you need to send a clearer message than laughing.

[Asker]

I definitely agree. We’re new to dating so I want to set boundaries but just wanted to keep the energy light in the moment. Don’t get me wrong I like it, but I’m awkward about being so open

[DtMe89]

What's "low key pda", to you, then?

[Asker]

Did you see the sentence where I said to wait til we’re in a more secluded area? Not the wide open

[DtMe89]

But at the end, you said, you like a little pda, so, what sort of "low key" pda, do you like?

[Asker]

I don’t mind him slapping my ass, kissing me, hugging me, I just meant the timing and place. Where we were at was pretty open and the slap echoed across the room

[DtMe89]

Right, so it wasn't what he did it was WHERE you were at

[Asker]

Yes…that’s what I said.
In public
In the wide open

[DtMe89]

No, you said "butt slap"

The right phrase of the question would be. "Do you like PDA"?

[Asker]

The whole question is addressing the butt slap in a public setting. Literally the first sentence says that. I said that I like some pda but I like it to be “lowkey” or subtle. My question isn’t asking about PDA, I’m asking if how I reacted makes me prudish. Other people understood what I meant so you should reread it.

[DtMe89]

No, you are still saying you just don't like PDA. Why don't you get that

[Asker]

No I’m not. He and I kiss and hug in public. I simply don’t want my ass being slapped in the open like that. It can be in public but not around lots of people.

[Nikki1989]

It is not prudish, but he does sound very juvenile.

[Asker]

I agree

[Anonymous]

Have you told him you don't want him to do that?

[Opinion Owner]

I did that to my girl in public and told me she didn't like it. Never did it again after that.

[Asker]

I wanted to keep the moment light heart but I plan to talk to him and see where we both stand on PDA. We’re new to dating each other

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think you're a prude for not liking it, we all have our own likes and dislikes. Just talk to him about it.

[Asker]

Thank you and I definitely will

[Squatting_Slav]

Not prude, we all show affection in different ways and have different ways of pda

[Berethor]

Yea it's prudish, though it make sense to not do sexual stuff while your are in public.