What makes you put a woman/man on a pedestal?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

I don't. It implies that the person has an idealized perception of another. It is what happens when a person becomes infatuated. They think the other person is perfect in every way. But infatuation eventually fades.

Mutual infatuation is the most wonderful feeling in the world. It is the feeling that people associate with love. But, once you get to know each other better, you begin to see each other as people, flaws and all. If you see their true behaviors, habits, idiosyncrasies, lifestyle, etc. and still adore them, infatuation may transform into true love.

Instead of idealizing someone, two people ideally respect, admire, adore and love each other for who they truly are.

Putting someone on a pedestal would mean putting them in a position of superiority instead of equality - dominant versus submissive. You would let them take advantage of you. You would grovel like an adoring pet dog.

And idealizing someone puts them in the awkward position of having to live up to your perception, which is impossible since everyone has flaws. So, when you inevitably see a chink in their armor, your rose-colored glasses fall away, and you will feel let down. Your false image of them is shattered.

BullShark · Accepted Answer

Absolutely nothing. We're all human beings with our own pros and cons, and we all deserve to be loved and respected, but in reasonable moderation. Showering someone with affection unnecessary for the most trivial of things will only chase them away from you further

Justneedtokno · Accepted Answer

When they are doing everything right if they are doing things and you don’t have to ask active service is one of my love languages. If they do no wrong in your eyes because even their flaws make them stronger because they’re trying to change and do better. I’ve done this with my father.

Account · Accepted Answer

If they are altruistic, loyal, witty and humble, I find it hard not to put them into pedestal. I like genuinely good human beings. Alas, there are not many of them.

AviatorTom · Answer

I try not to. No matter how good she is, we are all human, and equals.

TrueConfection · Answer

When she is competely selfless and living a godly life. Mother Theresa comes to mind and I'm not Catholic.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I have learned to not do that. It always causes problems in a relationship.

ohsheeT · Answer

I guess either a flood or a couple hungry tigers

Anonymous · Answer

Whenever someone does this they are usually in love with the image of what they person. In love with the fantasy. But not in love with the real person.

So if you are lucky enough to get in a relationship with that person you are setting yourself up for a major disappointment. It’s very dangerous. It’s also not fair to the other person because once reality hits the person feels “betrayed”.

I’ve twice dated women who were in love with the “fantasy” of what they thought I was. It ended horribly in both instances. I did nothing to impress these women either.

That’s not to say you shouldn’t boost up the person. Of course you should. But it better be reciprocated.

idonotlikeyou · Answer

Utter stupidity. Putting anyone on a pedestal is just hiding your insecurities under the guise of respect and devotion. But that’s just pretending—when the first difficult situation comes along, the real emotions, like jealousy and fear, will surface.

MisterWack · Answer

When they show their heart & soul, integrity, and character to you and you can read it like a novel… It runs deep and flows brilliantly with a glimmer, shimmer, and shine. That is when you know they are the one and you would do anything for them.

Raaj4you · Answer

I would put a woman on pedestal if she is a gentle woman, classy. Must have all the good qualities: Education, beauty, brain, money, character, femininity, fashionable, sympathetic, organized, kind, sensitive, good behaviour, etc. Otherwise, I will not waste my time for her. I am fussy, most the girls I have selected in the past for long term relationship were Gems. 💎

Tamera952 · Answer

I don’t know, but I really, really feel uncomfortable when someone does that. I don’t want to be in the limelight, the center of someone’s attention, …. yuck.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Absolutely nothing  The only woman who sits on a pedestal to me is my mother and its a different kind of pedestal  I have enough maturity to know we are all humans with flaws

Nerdvana · Answer

When she treats everyone around her with kindness

Anonymous · Answer

She is white loving, cares about family and wants to be lead by a man her husband. That makes me want to put her on a pedestal. I really like average looking women as long as they are white or just exotic. I don't ask much if she is just willing to have children and family and not demanding and she can have everything I can offer to her if she gives me a big large family. 6-8 children and adopt 6 more together and care for them. That women is worthy of being my queen.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I don't, but my husband is close to reaching that status.

Billlewis · Answer

I honestly wouldn't be interested in any kind of relationship with a woman whom I couldn't place on a pedestal.

Cripplingkingship · Answer

I would never put a women on pedestal. If I were to do it, not intentionally it would because I am confused about my feeling for her.

superchan2011 · Answer

I don't usually. You can't really put anyone on a pedestal. That's the quickest way to letdowns and disappointments.

Berethor · Answer

Virginity, why would a put a ho on a pedestal? I don't like dirty women, no thanks.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I don’t usually do that. I try to avoid idealizing people.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nothing. That is unfair to the person who will never be able to live up to the idealization.

Unit1 · Answer

Nothing

MoonFace2 · Answer

I don’t, anymore 😊. It used to be beauty and charm.

Anonymous · Answer

When she looks almost perfect, and doesn't act like a b**ch about it.

DrPepper12 · Answer

A step stool? Ladder? Pulley system I guess. Crane for the plumper princesses? I don't know what?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Nothing. That's a form of worship and nobody is getting worship from me except the Lord Jesus Christ.

Anonymous · Answer

i would never, no guy is worth the pedestal.

Anonymous · Answer

body count. the lower it is the higher the pedestal. the higher it is the lower the pedestal

Knightwatch27 · Answer

Absolutely nothing. That's idolatry and the only one deserving a pedestal is Jesus.

Tomisworthless · Answer

If I perceive them to better than me, which honestly tends to be most girls I come across

kaucky1 · Answer

If somebody does something wrong to somebody else fix her seek vengeance 🫡🤫

msc545 · Answer

If the floor is real wet and I don't want them to get their shoes wet a pedestal helps.

Sadia26 · Answer

If they have done something to make the world a better place. The best examples are Abraham Lincoln, Mother Teresa, Princess Diana.

avery58 · Answer

I'll never put anyone on a pedestal

SugarSugarplum · Answer

Selfless or heroic acts.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Has not happened since adulthood. 🧐

NathanDavis · Answer

I just don't... do that

SolitarySolace · Answer

No one should be doing that for anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

Her being nice and respectful.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

C-H-A-R-A-C-T-E-R !!!

Babygirl_S · Answer

How he makes me feel.

UnusualWeirdo · Answer

You love them.

RavVid · Answer

I don't.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Nothing.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Sex sex

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

I don’t.

eagle1951 · Answer

Love

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