Advice to 5,7 guys?

[nik0102]

I am 5,7 or 1.74m and I have struggled a lot in the dating scene. Most of the times I am wither the same height or shorter than the girls I date, and shorter than most of my friends

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey man, I feel you on that. Dating while shorter can definitely feel rough. But don't sweat what you can't change, y'know? Here's some advice:

- Own your height, bro. Confidence is key - don't act all insecure about it or make lame jokes. You are who you are.

- Work out and stand up straight. Being fit and having good posture makes 5'7 look a lot taller than slouching around.

- Don't focus so much on a girl's height. Appearance isn't everything - charm them with your personality.

- Have a good sense of humor. Learn to joke about yourself in a silly, self-effacing way. Shows you don't take it super seriously.

- Consider dating taller girls if that bothers you less. Or try other culturally short countries like Asia - height matters less there.

- Use apps/sites that let you filter matches by height preference if you want. Might find more receptive girls.

- Build confidence through hobbies, career success, friendships. Compensate any lacking height mojo with other attractive qualities.

Don't let being average height bring you down, man. Own it, work on your game, and rock what you got. Confidence is hot on any guy - short, tall or medium! You got this.

[nik0102]

Wow thanks for the thorough reply man, but is it average though, or short?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah yeah man, 5'7" is kind of on the shorter side of average height, to be real. The average height for a dude in the US is like 5'9". So you're a couple inches under that.

But here's the thing - being average or short doesn't automatically make you less of a dude, you know? Tons of successful guys have been short. Look at Danny DeVito, he's doing just fine haha.

And lots of girls don't necessarily care that much about height either. Own what you got and focus on cultivating an awesome personality and confidence. Girls dig that way more than a number on the height chart.

Plus you're still young, don't even fully stop growing yet. I had a friend who was like 5'4" sophomore year and ended up 5'10" by senior year. You never know, couple more inches could come.

Bottom line - rock what your mama gave you, stay awesome, and don't sweat stuff out of your control. You'll be straight bro, high school isn't forever!

[nik0102]

Soon I'll be 25, I think I finished growing lol

[Juxtapose]

Get ripped, swole & mean. Develop a reputation as somebody that is not to be trifled with.

That would cancel out your shortness. Otherwise I can't really think of much.

[nik0102]

Lol mostly the opposite is true, I'm lean with not much muscle

[Juxtapose]

Just because you are skinny does not mean you cannot be mighty. You can still bulk up and if you don't want to be bulky, you can be like Jackie Chan.

[Juxtapose]

But outwardly being ripped, giving off a menacing aura and having very clear muscle definition will get people to overlook your height. From there they would insult your height out of fear to try and make you not believe in yourself because you would scare them.

[nik0102]

Will try to build some muscle, though, I'm not sure if those underwhelmed looks from the somewhat tall ladies will end

[Dongie]

He's right, Nik.
I had a friend 5' 2.5" tall and bulked up like a bowling ball. He framed houses, could walk a 12/12 (45⁰) angled roof, and NOBODY messed with him. He got lots of pussy too. He even got a handjob one morning from a woman who had been abused by her husband that he had picked up.

[texascollegegirl]

You're not getting the truth here. Reality is girls often filter on physical attributes or looks but just won't admit it. Sometimes we don't even know. This is more of a thing with hookups, where the more attractive among us will want taller, good looking guys with a really big dick. That combo is pretty rare so we'll compromise. The good news is there are plenty of shorter girls or girls who will compromise on one or another attribute. For relationships with girls in your likely group -- girls who are a little bit to way shorter than you, personality and being a quality person matters the most, and looks and being well put together are more important than height. I'm a little white girl and while I go for all those physical attributes, like a lot of girls I'll compromise to get the one I want the most. So because I want the biggest dick Blacks, I'm okay with shorter guys or not quite as good looking and so on. There is a LOT more room to match up with someone when it's for a relationship and not just sex.

[wowop99266]

And why is it more of a thing with hookups? Maybe some of us are just looking for that and not a relationship?

[texascollegegirl]

@wowop99266 The physical definitely matters more for hookups or cheating or anything like that. A lot of times it's just about the physical thing like getting bigger dick even though we love our boyfriend or husband.

[wowop99266]

But why? It should matter less, since there are no obligations and forgettable.

[Alice18]

You are of normal growth. Yes, it's not tall, but it's within the norm 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

It seems that you invented a problem for yourself, and the girls refused you not because of your height, but because of other problems

[nik0102]

@alice18 but I've been told before from girls, it's a turn off

[UnusualWeirdo]

Height means nothing next to personality, be confident, funny and charming. Be positive and take that energy out with you when you strut your shit, and don't lose that confidence either.

[nik0102]

I try but it's not easy being confident when looked down on

[UnusualWeirdo]

Hold your head high and fuck what anyone thinks, they're not you, you got this shit, you're awesome, be cool, be suave, and if they laugh move on to the next one, there are so many women in this world, be positive and they will react appropriately

[LiamJHayden]

I have a friend who is 3 inches shorter than you and he has no problems with the ladies. One of his girlfriends was 6' tall. Just be confident and give off a "I like you, but don't need you." vibe to them and some will bite.

[nik0102]

Interesting view. My ex was also taller, and she could never look past it

[purplepoppy]

Unless you're a midget very few girls will reach a guy purely on height.

[nik0102]

Really? Because I have been criticized before

[verknallt]

I know many guys with your height that have girlfriends...

[Angel_ica]

Is disadvantage but not too bad