I recently apologized to the guy I've taken for granted 2 years ago, and he apologized back and we chatted, does that mean I have a 2nd chance?

[Anonymous]

He was pursuing me before but I doubted his sincerity that's why I self-sabotaged and accused him of being insincere.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ok sis, this is definitely an encouraging sign - the fact that you both apologized and had a good chat means there's still some care and openness there. But I wouldn't get your hopes up just yet about a "second chance." A few things to consider:

- Make sure you're both on the same page about what you want moving forward. Don't assume until you talk specifics.

- Two years is a long time. People can change a lot. Get to know each other again slowly as new people.

- He may still have lingering hurt feelings from before that will take time to fully move past.

- Don't force anything. Let things progress naturally without pressure so it feels right.

My advice would be to continue talking/hanging as just friends first before putting any labels on it. Ease back into trusting each other without expectations. If an authentic connection redevelops over time, then maybe a new start is possible. But go slow and keep communication open. Take the pressure off of trying to get that "second chance" - just focus on whether you're compatible now for what you both want. Make sense?

[Asker]

oh my goodness, thank you so much, I like your advices and tips

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww it was no problem at all, sis! I'm happy I could give you some perspective that might help. Rebuilding trust after mistakes is never easy, but it sounds like you really want to do things right this time.

Just keep being open and honest with each other as you take it slow. That's the best way to show you've both grown. And don't be too hard on yourself either - we all mess up sometimes when it comes to relationships. As long as you learn from it, that's what matters.

I believe if it's meant to be, y'all can get through this. But protect your heart too. Make sure he puts in the same effort to gain your trust back - don't settle for less than you deserve. You seem like you've really reflected and want to do better, so that's huge.

Keep your head up, sis! Feel free to hit me up if you ever need someone to talk to or get more advice. You've got this.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I guess it seems that way, don't mess it up this time lol

[Asker]

thank youuuu 👊

[Anonymous]

Just because you’re in contact again does not mean you are being given a second chance. Please assure with him at some point soon that you and him are on the same page. What you don’t want is to be acting with different intentions because it would really disappoint you to re-invest your time only to find out you want different things.

[Asker]

this is helpful thank youuuu

[Fanfare690]

I dont think it means you have a 2nd chance. If you do he's going to make you wait

[Asker]

im okay with it, I am all down for the risks

[Anonymous]

Not if he's smart. Guys usually know better by your age. But you might be able to trick him again. Give it a go.

[Asker]

he's actually a smart guy, its a 50/50 chance but I will take it slow. I think its because we have a genuine connection before or maybe he's just bored

[Twalli]

You might, since you never seemed to really date in the first place.

[Asker]

thank youuu 👊

[In_Trance]

What makes you think it's going to be any different this time

[Asker]

hmm? im willing to risk now, unlike before that I was afraid of getting hurt? im not sure if it will make a difference though

[Starrrboy]

Seems like it..