Should I apologize (again) for real this time?

[Anonymous]

Well I'm now friends with the girl. Though my 1st apology in Nov was insincere. I was using her just to improve my school grades and math. Honestly, if she would've denied helping me it would've been deserved.

I've been an awful person to her for 3 years. She's been sweet to me these past months and I've gotten to know her better. I actually feel awful, that I have to make up for those 3 years, make up for originally using her, that I owe her a lot. Off course I'm not going to tell it was insincere but I'll just apologize again. She'll say I already did but I'll just say ''I know'' but apologize again.

Do I apologize (again) for real this time or not?

[rosemilk]

i think both of you learned a valuable lesson. her to not trust people and for you to not take advantage of people. you already apologized, no need to continue or that will annoy her. there's not much else you can do except accept your mistakes and move on and then maybe later on you can try to rekindle this relationship if she allows it

[Asker]

I'm already her friend and grateful for it. She doesn't know my first apologize was insincere (she forgave me fast, which I was impressed) nor that I was initially using her. She doesn't know this and obviously won't tell her that.
It's me that feels awful for treating her poorly for 3 years (since 7th grade), faking that 1st apology and using her at first.

[Asker]

If I apologize again, she's going to say I already did (unaware it was insincere) but this is what I imagine saying... that I'm grateful for our friendship and that just wanted her to know I'm sorry (for real) for everything before.

[rosemilk]

ahhh i see what you mean now. i would subliminally apologize then by getting stuff for her and making her feel appreciated for being your friend

[Cutegirl06]

No, you already apologized once. She doesn't know it was insincere. I think you just want to apologize again because you probably feel guilty knowing that the first apology was insincere. As long as you realize what you did was wrong and really want to be friends with this girl just let it go.

[Asker]

Honestly I was impressed at how fast I was forgiven after how I treated her for 3 years (I've been awful to her since 7th grade) and appreciate this chance I was given. I feel grateful for this friendship. I didn't deserve it.
I feel awful about everything; the bullying I did for 3 years, the insincere apology, initially using her, for everything. I'm sorry for everything. I want to be a better person.

[Cutegirl06]

It sounds like you really are sorry for bullying this girl and that you want to change your behavior. I think it's awesome! Just remember we all make mistakes and fortunately you have been given a second chance to change your behavior. I think it's awesome that you realize what you did was wrong.

[laly520]

one apology is enough
repeating it makes it lose its meaning

[Asker]

Ok then I'll just keep showing my change through actions. I feel bad for how I treated her before, for being an awful bully. I'm sorry about everything.

[laly520]

good choice
actions always speak louder than words