What’s the best way to initiate physical intimacy with a man?

[Anonymous]

I’ve known my boyfriend for almost a year now. But we’ve only been dating since July. We have an 11-year-age gap with him being almost 50. Long story short, the most we’ve done is kiss… but not extended kissing like making out.

He never tries to make moves beyond that, and whenever i try to make a move, nothing ever happens. So many things are running through my head, thinking maybe he’s impotent or really isn’t attracted to me.

He & his mom live in the same house. I have not invited him to my house due to lingering fear from a past relationship.

we are having a weekend getaway soon, so i am hoping we can finally have some alone time & privacy. But i dont know how i should approach this. Should I just hope that he makes a move, or should I try something? In case he’s got something serious going on like impotency issues, I don’t want to do something that might make it obvious that he’s got Erectile dysfunction or whatever & leave him feeling embarrassed. But then I’m thinking maybe he’s shy and waiting for me to make a move. I don’t know what to do

[Ariesman81]

Living with my mother would definitely give me erectile dysfunction! 🤣

[Asker]

And to be honest, his mom is a pain in the arse…. She’s honestly like Ed Gein’s mom. Only Mommy is good enough to take care of him, and whenever she’s talking about a woman he’s tried to date, she calls them “damn girls”. She hates me, lol. Can’t stand me because he was going through a really bad depressive mood and she was making it worse. But I helped get him out of that mood by being supportive and she got all ticked off. I had to block her number because she would text me hateful things all the time.

[Ariesman81]

Yeah... your boyfriend is a mother fucker. And you're in competition with her. The question is how long you gonna put up with it?

[In_Trance]

4 months and all you've done is kiss?

There's something wrong

[Asker]

I know :( I just don’t know if it’s a problem with him, or it’s an issue with me (ugly, etc). I’m praying it’s an issue with him. If he can’t get it up, I’ll be OK with that. I am just desperate to know what the problem is.

[In_Trance]

I hope you can talk it out

[CountryWanderer]

You should initiate and see what happens. Turn the kiss into a make out. Slip your tongue into his mouth, run your hands over his body. Put his hands on your butt. Does he reciprocate or pull back? If the latter, ask him what is wrong and why he doesn't want to be intimate with you.

[AustColombiangirl]

drop to your knees and take it like a good girl

[AustColombiangirl]

Did you fuck him like a good girl

[Asker]

He won't touch me :( i slept on the couch while he got the kingsize bed

[AustColombiangirl]

time to move on

[Nikki1989]

Who initiates?

It just happens, or at least it should.

[Intheclouds00]

Grab his dick is the best way.