I lost my virginity at 26 to an escort, now how should I start dating normally?

[Purplepines]

Bad news: I had to pay $12,000 to lose my virginity… at 26.

Good news, I hired multitudes of escorts to learn the basic. Roughly 5-6 escorts in Nevada. Hopefully I’m ready for a real relationship but I’m worried that I started too late. Before hiring an escort I was being rejected 15+ times a year, since age 18.

What is some advice?

[Anonymous]

ok but that was just a sexual experience its not dating at all. to start i wouldn't tell potential dates about the escort thing , it might come off as desperate and a misuse of money.

at 26 you still have options but a lot of dating these days is online and with people you don't really know at all. is still in person ways to meet people as well which could also leads to dates.

[AviatorTom]

You overpaid! Try being yourself and date women to get to know them, not just to have sex.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry but I don't get why you had to pay for escorts when there are so many women out here willing to give it up for free and you don't even have to be that great looking. Just a nice guy with a somewhat great personality. Paying $12k for escorts is crazy.

[Opinion Owner]

You obviously are not looking within your league. You are probably aiming too high when it comes to women. You have to choose women within your league. I put money on it the women you got rejected by were 9s and 10s.

[Purplepines]

Some were. Not all of them.

I go for women who look at me and think I’m decent looking

[Purplepines]

Not if the guy has no experience and therefore has no idea what he’s doing.

At least not women around my age

[Opinion Owner]

What would you rate yourself? And be completely honest.

[Purplepines]

6-7. 4 if I’m wearing my glasses.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok well look for women in that range. Don't shoot for the 9s and 10s or even 8s. I learned the hard way that shooting for people out of my league would never work and shooting for people actually much lower made me happier and I'm in love with a great guy.

[Purplepines]

Then why do 4s reject me? I’m a 6-7 without glasses. Hopefully next year I can become an 8 once I get back in shape.

[Opinion Owner]

Perhaps it's your personality. Work on your personality. And yeah definitely getting back in shape will help as well but not as much as you gaining a great personality.

[Purplepines]

I typically go for women just a tad older than me, does that matter? Like 28-30 and I’m 26.

Screw dating women below 22 who are still in college

[Opinion Owner]

No it doesn't matter. What matters is how you come across to women. If you don't have a lot of personality then it will be hard to land one. My guy is 5 foot 5 and not that great looking but gets a lot of girls including me because of his personality.

[Chthou95]

"Just be a nice guy with somewhat great personality" cliche and poltically correct advice

[Smonadd]

This is delusional

[Abbycado]

Jfc XD

$12k? Hope it was good and she taught you everything in the book lol. @Agape93 thoughts?

[Purplepines]

What’s so funny about 12k?

It was for 6 escorts. Not 1 expensive escort

[Agape93]

You said you paid 12k to lose your virginity, so unless you lost it 6 times, your story doesn't match. But even between 6 of em, dude they ripped you off

[Purplepines]

@Agape93 counting money for flights and that I wanted good ones, it’s not too unreasonable.

Now tell me, what should my next step with dating be?

[Agape93]

Wait hold the fuck up. Are you unable to get hookers or escorts locally?

Money management and an std panel

[Purplepines]

@Agape93 I am able to do it locally, if I was okay with breaking the law

[Agape93]

Oh please, don't give me that shit. Guys almost never actually get punished even when caught, its mostly the women that do. So instead of risking a slap on the wrist, you expect us to believe you spent 12 grand on flights and escorts, just to fuck a bit.

[Purplepines]

@Agape93 ALMOST never. Almost

Didn’t wanna risk it at all.

the way my luck was running when it comes to sex, I would’ve been outside your “almost”

[Agape93]

Risk it all? Bruh it's a slap on the wrist. Like maybe a fine and a night in jail. I've done longer stints than that ffs. Your biggest hangup is a std

[Purplepines]

@Agape93 I got tested, I’m fine.

I also had the money to blow.

Now let’s focus on the topic. What’s next when it comes to women?

[Agape93]

Then you lucked out, you massive idiot.

Simple. Date local and manage your money better.

[Purplepines]

@Agape93 be honest, how old are you? If you’re even as young as 23, then you have NO idea what it’s like for a man to be a virgin at 26.

[Agape93]

32 you dipshit, it's on my profile

Cry me a river, you had options to change that at anytime, you just refused it because you're too scared of an exceedingly minor charge you are unlikely to even get.

[Purplepines]

@Agape93 I changed it, you teenager-in-her-30s. I paid to learn the basics so I could KEEP A WOMAN.

I did what I set out to do. That’s all there is in this world, succeeding or failing.

[Agape93]

You paid 12 grand for what you could have spent locally for much cheaper. You pick stupid options later in life, do something risky af, and expect to get and keep a woman? Listen kid, what would you have done if your panel wasn't clean?

[Purplepines]

@Agape93 given up and accepted my fate.

But it was clean. And I’m not a kid, I’m 26.

[Agape93]

All for a stupid choice, you could have ruined your future.

You act like an adult and make adult choices instead of making childish ones, I'll treat you as an adult. Until then you don't deserve that.

[Purplepines]

@Agape93 be honest, would you have dated me? Before I paid?

[Agape93]

No because i know nothing about you, and unless I know what you're actually like, you'd be disregarded

[Purplepines]

@Agape93 you know I’m 26. Only just turned 26 too. Too young? I’ve gone for women your age before.

[Agape93]

Long as someone's 18 or older, I don't give a shit.

[Purplepines]

Is there a way we can talk off of here?

[Purplepines]

With all due respect, you’re only a 19 year old girl.

You cannot fathom the shame a 26 year old man virgin has

[Anonymous]

You must have more money than good sense. 12K?

[Purplepines]

How many escorts should I have gone to see? And how much should I have paid?

[Anonymous]

You can't once you've paid for it because no one else will come near

[Purplepines]

Only if I tell them.

You won’t get that info out of me even if you point a gun at me.

[Opinion Owner]

They can smell it in how you carry yourself

[Smonadd]

Cope, tard

[BonzoInBitburg]

$12k? You're an idiot.

[Purplepines]

Trip fees, hotel fees, 6 different high end escorts, bla bla bla.

It adds up

[BonzoInBitburg]

I do things a little differently. First date we go for coffee $5. Second date she comes over and I cook her dinner $10. I get laid for $11,985 less than you

[Purplepines]

I’ve tried that. Ended up at 26 and having not even one success

[Anonymous]

just keep making money