If some men like heavy/plus size women, then how come I get rejected?

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I’ve always been a bigger girl growing up. I was tall growing up. Middle school/high school, I’ve NEVER been asked for a dance, never! I’ve never been asked out on dates because I’m tall and overweight. My parents said I’m just big boned and not everyone is built to be thin. I’m 5’10, broad bodies, very curvy but I’m 230lbs. Also a size 16W/18W. I’ve been rejected for l being too “fat” or too “big”.
My boyfriend of nine months dumped me for a thinner girl. He said he loves thick women. The problem is I eat, eat, eat!
Guys say I’m bangable for sex and whatever.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

It depends on the man it’s sort of like the whole short guy thing. Every person is different and while people should take sone effort into their appearance and hygiene. It’s not all that’s important. Remember quality of attention over quantity that is something people loose sight of.

Don’t lack morals. Don’t be entitled either because the minute people start feeling as if the opposite sex owes them something the people who have anything to offer are going the other direction. Stay true to yourslef just remember if it’s meant to be it will be. Put yourself out there and and figure out who you like.

Sometimes rejection in the romantic sense isn’t rejection as a person. People are looking for different things.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Because those are called society rules so they're meaningless in a roundabout way if you keep waiting around just waiting for that one person to live in the society rules you might be waiting forever so why don't you just change things up on what you think is the right way and then see what happens

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

Eat, eat, eating is not good for you. There are a ton of things that can go wrong. Diabetes, sleep apnea, fatty liver, bad back, heart attack - the #1 cause of death in women, and more. I suggest counseling and a nutritionist to help you with cutting back on your eating. Some exercise, like walking wouldn't hurt either. But I know how you feel. I was once 190 pounds myself. If I could get down to 135, so can you. Well, maybe weigh a bit more since you are taller. Good luck.

LeatherDame · Accepted Answer

Might be a matter of who you’re picking? If he left you for someone else primarily because she’s attractive, you dodged a bullet in him being a shallow prick.

That said, being outside the Hollywood ideal narrows down the ratio of people who are into you but there are still a lot of people into heavier, thin, really tall, really short etc. so I doubt looks/weigjt is the primary thing going on here

TommyWiseau69 · Answer

Guys these days want like a 90 - 120 lb woman. Those men that like plus sized women are not common the same way that women that like short men are not common. You would actually have to find that specific person. Although if you have a personality and/or face more attractive than a thinner woman that would be to your advantage. But people will like whatever they like, dating is like shopping. People can choose who they want at any time and literally go on apps filtering people out so it will never work in that instance. I find that bigger women do have sweeter personalities although i'm a slim man myself so I don't know if the pairing would look right you would need to find a massive guy or if a skinnier guy likes you. But ironically these massive guys want toothpick women too like I don't get it, don't change for anyone however. I can't change my height at 5'4 even though I'd like to it is what it is we live in a shallow world

Anonymous · Answer

We'd have to see you to answer this. My guess is your weight is in the wrong spots. I used to work with this lady that was 5'11" and 225lbs. And she was hotter than hell. But all her weight was in the right spots. Not all women are created equal.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You are just meeting the wrong men, and you don't sound too big to me, either.

Flower7 · Answer

If you’re overweight because of how much you eat, you’re not “big-boned”.

jahaims · Answer

It's a small percentage of people that have a fat fetish

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Because you reject yourself. You can’t be healthy.

scott04sa22 · Answer

I like plus - sizes but their hard to come by

MasterKS · Answer

Its more about mind than body.

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