Why do guys always reject me for slimmer or more fit women?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been a big girl all my life, never been at a healthy weight or anything like that. My parents said I’m just big bones and not everyone can be thin and just embrace who I am. I was 5’10 and 267lbs.

There parents of course they have to say that. I’ve been rejected a lot because most guys wanted the petite, average height woman. Some girls that are fit or slim that get attention or boyfriends. I know there’s a few guys that likes me but I didn’t like them and some were shorter than me or fat. The only guy that truly liked me according to my friends is our guy friend. He’s also a big guy and overweight too. He was like 6’0”. He always seems to ask me out more than the fit, or slimmer girls. I thought he would like them too. He always asked me to school dances, asks me to be his valentine (since 6th grade and I told him no several times) and has called me baby in high school once. I told him we’re not dating and stop calling me that.

My best friend told me I’m lucky to have a guy that actually notices me for me and not my size or disability. He is autistic like I am. My other friend said it makes better he knew hot girls wouldn’t go for him and probably prefers bigger girls.

My mom said in the past that maybe I should give him a chance. I’ve been obsessed over these jocks or good looking guys that won’t give me the time of day and I deserve a guy that notices me for me. Sometimes the less good guys are the best ones.

I lost some weight and I’m down to 220lbs. My guy friend is losing weight too. He is looking good but I’m not attracted to him. Why won’t guys I like give me a chance when I hit on them? I’ve only had one boyfriend in my life but he cheated on me with a skinny girl. Well thin girl. He said he wanted someone less weight and fit and I don’t care about my health.

[Orion84]

No offense intended, but most guys go for slimmer women because being overweight is unattractive to them, and most people in general, men and women, would rather be with someone they're attracted to.

[Asker]

So what am I supposed to do, go for fat men?

[Orion84]

You can go for fat men, yes, or you could lose weight, and get in better shape. There are probably some guys out there that like bigger women, but they are less common, and harder to find.

[Anonymous]

I don't know. We're kind of in the same boat. I mean I'm attracted to Scarlett Johansson. I've sent her a thousand love letters. I mean I'm short 5'6" but so is she. OK, I'm fat and unemployed. But that just gives me more free time to love her. Why won't she give me a chance?😆

[Asker]

She’s an actress, celebrity! She’s not going to want to date you. How do you know she can trust you?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, and you're not thin. Looks like we could both use a dose of reality. 🤣

[Asker]

Hey!!! That wasn’t nice 💔

[Opinion Owner]

Neither is your question or comments. You admit you're not very attractive but still want guys out of your league. Why is that OK but not me with Scarlet Johansson?
Do you want nic we or do you want help?
If you're just on hear to complain I n about your frustration I can understand that to. But don't ask it in a question as though anyone can really help you. You gotta start by being real with yourself. And if that's not cool with you then just embrace being single. I mean I've accepted that if I have to choose being Scarlett Jo and being single, I'm probably going to have yo accept being single.

[strateguy632]

Mainly because slim or fit is attractive, nothing personal about you.

[Asker]

Well yeah because it’s always slim it fit women in magazines and movies. I’m sick of it. Well there’s bigger girls in it but still. Can’t believe my ex would cheat on me with a slimmer petite woman.
My older sister who is 5’5, slim and stunning, she has men all over her. Plus she’s curvy as well, but slim. I’ve always been jealous of her because of her slim body and in high school some cute guy’s wanted to go out with her.
Cute guys likes her but I get fat guys liking me just because I am a bigger girl.

[BarryLiverstone]

Same reason you reject fat guys

[Asker]

So I’m supposed to go out with fat guys because I’m a fat woman?
What the hell am I supposed to do? I’m only getting short or one word answers.

[BarryLiverstone]

Best thing to do would be to see a doctor and create a plan to get healthy. If you remain obese you likely will not get attention from many guys.

That’s more than a one word answer

[BarryLiverstone]

Your ex said you don’t care about your health. What have you done since he said that to prove him wrong?

[Asker]

I lost like 47 pounds

[BarryLiverstone]

Keep losing weight. When will you be under 150?

[Asker]

My doctor said that’s too low for me and I should aim for 180 or 185. Fat chance! I’m growing down to 160lbs.

[BarryLiverstone]

Once you get to 150, it’s more likely some guys will look more at you. Just like you don’t look at guys over 200 rn

[Asker]

You do have a point. What I don’t understand is that why do people promote big people like obese or overweight is beautiful when it’s not. I’m not saying is big people aren’t beautiful but being overweight and obese isn’t?

[BarryLiverstone]

They do that because they feel like it helps with mental challenges. Unfortunately obese people are more likely to give up on life, become depressed, and abuse themselves or others. So people will lie to them by saying bigger is beautiful and saying it’s about the personality and not about the body. The reality is most people are into others who are healthy and in shape.

[BarryLiverstone]

Also the messaging is to teenagers and younger kids who have lower self esteem anyway. So they don’t want those o obese children to hurt themselves

[BarryLiverstone]

Have you ever lied to a friend to “protect their feelings” or just to make them feel better?

[Asker]

I’m not proud to say this but I have but she ended up being pisses off at me for not being honest

[BarryLiverstone]

Right. So that’s an example of how people lie in certain situations

[xyzguy1296]

Because they are mean

[Asker]

Well duh obviously. Now no man wants me