Does physical appearance determine if a man is worth talking to & date worthy?

Question

As a slim man I find women are less interested in me compared to bodybuilder & athletics men in my age group.

EzraIsShy76028 · Accepted Answer

I mean... to a certain extent. Obviously "looks aren't everything" yada yada yada but unfortunately human beings are VERY shallow creatures. I've also read in several places that even literal babies/infants have preferences in which type of people they preferred. They did a scientific experiment where the babies reacted more positively to attractive looking people and more negatively to unattractive looking people.

Not even exclusive to human beings either as other animals also look for the most attractive partner to pass their genes onto. Like horned animals look for the biggest horn, birds look for the most colorful feathers, etc.

NOT to say you're doomed if you're unattractive though. Just saying you might need to work a little harder than naturally attractive dudes.

As for bodybuilders and athletic men, I wouldn't worry too much about that part. A lot of average looking, and even skinny and fat guys are in relationships. Some women even prefer those over bodybuilders/athletic men.

But even for average/skinny/fat guys you should at least be trying for a minimum to keep up with your health. Like not necessarily be an athlete, but just don't be so lazy/sedentary that you can't even walk for 5 minutes without getting tired. And eat healthy at least 50% of the time, stay decently hydrated, and sleep an adequate amount.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My physique is the number one predictor of how much attention I'll get from attractive girls. When I'm in great shape (like UFC fighter level physique) I get tons of hot young girls talking to me. When I'm soft or too skinny, I don't. Women can deny it, but it's a verifiable fact. Almost no women like giant bodybuilders though. Athletic look is the key.

But don't forget that no matter what you look like, a creepy personality will turn away any woman. Make sure that is in order before working on building a masculine physique.

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

to some extent yes. looks matter for dating but they're not everything

if we're talking body type, i dont think skinny but not super jacked is a bad thing. maybe it's a bit less attractive then being fit for a certain amount of girls but i dont think it's considered unattractive especially in your age bracket, unless we're talking starved looking skinny

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

If men focus more on personality and charisma as much as they stress over appearance, many single men would be in relationships right now.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah dude--physical appearance most definitely matters, though you can make up for a LOT with a good personality, intelligence, a career or career prospects and a solid social scene.

But on the physical side, there is no doubt that being slim is not something that tends to work to a guy's advantage. I've found that more women are in to a dude with a "dad bod" than are in to a slim guy. For one thing, most girls like to feel smaller next to a guy. And unless you're dating a model (and if you are, you've already won!) then being slim you're going to automatically makes some girls feel less attractive, and that ain't good.

So if you can, I'd suggest hitting the gym and ramping up your caloric intake. Add muscle mass. You'll feel better anyway and your testosterone will improve which will have advantages in the bedroom.

MisterWack · Answer

Literally, no.

His hobbies, interests, character, demeanor, priorities, job, personality, and how he makes you feel in your presence is most interesting & most thought provoking also gets a woman’s heart beating not just looks alone / physique can win over a woman especially since she wants to see if you are father material and partner material too.

hahahmm · Answer

I was your age I was slim but fit. Never had any problem getting women at all, except for when I doubted myself. It's 90% in your head and about what confidence/charisma you have. As women get older the value the man's resources more & as guys get older they tend to have more resources. Do the math.

Anyhow, do whatever you do for YOU. That is the most important thing. If the side effect is something else you want, fine. But never do something just to get women.

HighValue · Answer

What matters the most is height, being fit/strong, and money. Those three matter the most. Does personality matter? Yes, for long term success, but if someone doesn't like the looks, they will never bother getting to know their personality in the first place.

As far as fitness goes, it is mostly having strong arms and shoulders with a good or decent chest that matters the most. No 6 pack necessary most of the time.

shades777 · Answer

The more women your in front of the easier it will be to be chosen.

I find I had the best options when I was at 185-190lbs and muscular, I'm 5'8 1/2.

After 23 being muscular has been my staple. Even now at 37 I'm arguably the strongest I've ever been curling 65lbs, something I wouldn't dream of in my 20's.

Also my style has vastly improved

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Personality will get you farther than being physically appealing, but looks still matter.

As long as you dress reasonably well, practice good hygiene, and are a fun person to be with; women WILL love you.

Chthou95 · Answer

Yeah this goes for both genders though. Upon merting someone you have no clue what they're like as a person. You make assumptions though based on their looks. But if someome doesn't find you physically attractive, the chances of it going anywhere is very low

MemeSupreme · Answer

most guys in relationships or sleep around aren't jacked and tall lol you'll be okay

ShadezMcgee · Answer

It helps but it is not the sole factor.  If you are fretting over your build, then why not get a gym membership and focus on getting your body to a standard that you desire?

Pohjolan · Answer

Oh they will talk to you more if you are athletic and tall but because they want you to help them with something.

You should build some muscle for your own sake like its going to protect your bones especially when you get older.

exitseven · Answer

I was a fat kid in my teens and as a result never had a luck with girls. I started working out and lost weight and got in shape. Girls seemed more open to dating me.

Bricealan · Answer

I find just the opposite. I am slim, and attract other slim women... I don't not want a so-called, 'curvy' woman... that to me, means chubby

alice55 · Answer

Depend on the preference of the person everyone is different.

LeatherDame · Answer

It’s icing on the cake but the cake is made out of treating me well and personality/work ethic.

paledreams · Answer

I enjoy being nornal, I'm better than normal. Naturally exposed muscles hahaha because I'm a natural skeleton 🩻🦴 happily

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

As with any other physical trait, there’s some women who place importance on it, and others who don’t.

ManOfHonor · Answer

This is a very interesting question, I agree somewhere looks matter for sure

Anonymous · Answer

If your fat. Your undateable unless you have Elon musk money

Danny_dan92 · Answer

It’s increasingly the case these days.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Well we dont all run around shirtless

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

H**L to the NO !!!

eagle1951 · Answer

great hair and smile

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope.

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