Should I give up monogamy?

[Snowbunnyalex]

• I’m a bi male and I find it very hard to keep a stable relationship. I’m mainly into women especially when it comes to romance, I can’t see myself ever dating a man. However I do have strong attraction to men and nothing gets me off more than bottoming for a man.
  
  So I’m in this weird spot where my emotional needs are met by women and my physical needs are met by men. This manifests itself in my love life as me cheating on my girlfriends for another man. Typically everything is great at first and that can last 1-2 years but eventually I just have to scratch the itch and let some hung stud rearrange my insides lol
  
  All that being said I’m starting to feel like my love life is a little hopeless and maybe I should just settle for a life of very fun but meaningless encounters.
  
  

what do y’all think?

[LeatherDame]

Might be worth dating polyamarous folx so you’re able to pursue both?


It’s also pretty normal to have that split since being in a visibly queer relationship comes with social baggage, more in conservative areas. Might be worth working through though as it’s possible you’ll develop feelings for a man and have to reckon with that at some point.

[Snowbunnyalex]

Honestly I hope I develop feelings for a man desperately lol I have tried and given multiple men a chance but it just never clicked. The day I start to feel romantic feelings for another man I will gladly abandon woman and join the gay club full time lol.

[LeatherDame]

Speaking about my own experience here, there may or may not be parallels.

But I had the same restriction around men, though was having to ignore it when I developed feelings for men I was close to (I’m a bit demisexual).

It was mostly just me being scared and limiting myself because of it. It took me a while to realize that’s what I was doing though

[Snowbunnyalex]

I blame my first male lover. He was the only guy I let myself fall for, only guy I kissed, only guy I told that I loved him, and he was my first everything. Out of no where he decided he wanted a girlfriend and just stop hitting me up and acted like nothing happened.

That probably fucked my view on M2m relationships a little bit lol

[LeatherDame]

Yeah that would definitely make it hard to feel safe! It’s a common complaint tbh and one reason bi people get a lot of avoidance from gay folx, there’s concerns the hetero relationships will be more of a draw because they’re easier/more socially accepted.

[Snowbunnyalex]

Ya the stigma around being a bi guy is insane lol heteros and homos frown upon it in general. There are some exceptions thankfully but most people are not very accepting of bi men.

[LeatherDame]

Yeah, the erasure from the 2slgbtqqia+ crowd is rough and the. The straight folx just think you’re gay so you get stuck in the middle.

As a mixed race person I can very much relate lol

[Snowbunnyalex]

Dm me please! What I wanna talk about next is a little to personal for the public 😂

[texascollegegirl]

You should give up on restrictive monogamy. Plenty of hot girls want a sissy they can cheat on, then watch when he's taking the biggest dick Blacks. I can understand cheating when you have to, but there are better ways based on what you describe. It's a different kind of monogamy.

[Snowbunnyalex]

You say there’s plenty of girls like that but I’m having a hard time finding them. Trust me I’ve been looking I would love a girl like that.

[texascollegegirl]

I understand. I said there's plenty of hot girls that want it, not that we are the easiest to find. It's partly the social cost of being on the fence about it and partly that it attracts insecure white boys that fetishize it to us like flies. The incels and whatnot are also a problem. A lot of us will keep it quiet unless we find the right guy. Even then it's a double life with a white boyfriend and all those big dick Blacks as hookups and lovers. I will think on it because it's easy for me to know. It's in us naturally to want guys like you and the biggest dick Blacks for the different things you give us.

[Amur8711]

Definitely need 2 polygamy partners that also what's the other sex.

[mandyfire98]

Sounds like being poly is something you're looking for.

[Snowbunnyalex]

Truly not looking for polygamy I would prefer monogamy it’s much simpler and less stressful. I just think that I may not be suited for monogamy unfortunately.

[mandyfire98]

So... Polyamory it is

[Anonymous]

Most women likes fucking 2 married bisexual dudes. Your luck might happen

[jahaims]

Sexual preference has nothing to do with monogamy

[Snowbunnyalex]

You’re missing the point. The duality of my sexual orientation is making it difficult to maintain a healthy monogamous relationship.

Also it’s sexual orientation, not preference. I would much rather prefer to be gay or straight so my love life could be more black and white. But no I’m stuck in a sea of 1000 shades of gray.

[jahaims]

You aren't emotionally healthy if you want others while in a relationship.

[Snowbunnyalex]

Sweet thanks for the sage wisdom there buddy….. I’m well past emotionally healthy dude😂 that ship sailed along time ago.