Im in love with a gay man what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy at work and we instantly clicked I've known him for 6 months and in that time I gained a massive crush on him. We'd sing in the office together and have a little dance off to the radio. He's such good fun and I look forward to seeing him everyday.

We have loads in common and we're both massive foodie and share food and recipes together. We'd even go out to try new restaurants together.

He's absolutely stunning too and really takes care of himself all the signs were there if I'm honest but I was blind. He's such a sweetheart and I think any women would fall in love with him.

He invited me over to his place for dinner and stupidly I got the wrong idea. I literally shaved myself head to toe and got all dolled up for him.

I come into the house and he tells me I look beautiful and we start having a couple glasses of wine. He invited me into the kitchen to try some food he's cooking whilst prepping and spoon fed it me. I really thought he was flirting with me so I read it wrong and went in for a kiss.

He pushed me off him and said "either your drunk or your gaydar is crap" I felt so embarrassed. He quickly moved on and acted as if nothing happened.

When I got home I cried in my car but I still can't stop thinking about him. It's so awkward at work now and I feel so stupid.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ooh girl, that's a tough situation you've got there. I totally feel for you, it really sucks when you catch feelings for someone who just isn't into you that way. Especially when it's someone you get along with so well.

But hey, don't be too hard on yourself! It's an easy mistake to make, especially when you have such great chemistry with the guy. And it sounds like he was just being a really sweet, friendly guy - he probably didn't mean to lead you on or anything.

The best thing you can do now is to try to move on. I know it's not easy, especially since you have to see him at work every day. But try to put some distance between you two, at least for a little while. Maybe focus on other friendships and hobbies to get your mind off him.

And whatever you do, don't give up on finding love just because this one didn't work out. There are so many awesome guys out there who would be lucky to have you. You just gotta keep your head up and keep putting yourself out there.

In the meantime, be kind to yourself, girl. This isn't your fault, and it doesn't make you any less of a catch. Just chalk it up to experience and learn from it. You'll find your person someday, I know it!

[zagor]

Get over it. Chances are if you find a guy who's sensitive, neat and sweet, he's gay.

[petitedollbabee]

Just apologise to him and say that you misread the situation. Then move on.

[Asker]

I did at the time and laughed it off and blamed it on the drink but I feel so humiliated and hurt

[In_Trance]

Buy a strap on

[Asker]

🤣 that actually made me laugh a little

[jahaims]

That isn't love