I have a HUGEE crush on a gay guy?

[Anonymous]

Ok so I've been friends with this guy since the end of 6th grade and at the time i didn't know he was gay and i didn't find out until the middle of 8th grade (im im highschool now). And by then I already had a huge crush on him i didn't know he was gay! But he is just so fun and easy to talk to and you can't tell he's gay as much as my other gay guy friends. I actually think im falling in love with him.. For awhile he didn't know if he liked guys or girls, that's the thing that gives me a small bit of hope! BUT he has a boyfriend who is also one of my best friends and at lunch when I talk to him i accidently talk to him the whole lunch like crazy without even realizing it and his boyfriend gets pissedd off at me. I don't know what to do i like him soo much. And I know this probably sounds really full of myself but I never really liked a guy who hasn't liked me back, I think it's because I make sure they like me first though but this is just so hard. I don't wanna do something stupid and make him all weirded out and not wanna be my friend anymore. Like im always hanging on his arm which is fine because his other gfs do that too but people who don't know us always ask if we're dating and I always joke around and say we are lol. But i don't know what to do!! Haha how do I get over this?

[BertMacklinFBI]

end this attraction d00d. if you tried anything you would not only hurt yourself but hurt your best friend who is the boyfriend to your crush. he's gay, even if he was bi he already has a boyfriend. why are you trying to get with a homosexual? doesn't make sense. the information should be clear, you two are not compatible. even if he does give you a certain vibe, always go back to the cold hard facts.

quick solution: find a straight male

[oldanddecrepid]

The stuff he is doing with you what good gf's do with each other.

Count yourself lucky... he sounds like a great friend. If he can't be your bf... then settle for just having him as a is great friend. Nice thing is he can give you some insight into a guys mind! I have two gay friends and they are freakin hilarious, couple of the best guys I know!

[Asker]

Thanks I liked your answer:) lol and yeah they are usually hilarious!

[oldanddecrepid]

Your welcome, the two guys I know banter so much... the drama is just too funny!

Because your a girl and he is gay, you probably just naturally get along. He is gay... so he maybe in touch with his feelings and is sensitive so you can relate. Its a good quality... often this is difficult to find in a guy!

[ElyseK]

I had the same issue once. But you need to respect his, how do I put it? Gayness... I'd say that you need to respect his decision but he's still very young, it could be experimenting or he could actually be gay. Just support him, gay people are more likely to be stressed and have depression. I'd say just remember that if he's happy, then you're happy.

[Sara413]

You gotta accept the facts and move on.. dude's gay, that ain't gonna change!

[Tomsta]

I personally believe in letting the person know, so i'd sit them both down and let them know you have a huge crush on the guy, but make it clear that you don't intend to do anything to harm what they have you just need it for some closure

Then comes the hard part; CUT CONTACT! go cold turkey it's the fastest way to deal with things like this

[Asker]

Omg no!! I dont wanna stop being friends with him haha I'll just have to find a way to stop liking him :/

[Tomsta]

trust me trying to stay friends with someone you love is extremely hard to do, i know cos i've been doing the same thing for the past 3 years

[Ashashbaby]

Please, he has a boyfriend and same sex couple if they love each other the bond are stronger than an opposite sex couple, I hope you don't mess up their relationship because, gay relationship isn't that easy to find like how girls can find love easily

[Prof_Don]

You need to go find a straight guy to crush on... once that happens your silly crush on a gay guy will end naturally.

[KhaysunDei]

Find yourself a straight man!

[ShaunnyB21]

Go out with me! Lol