How can I make sure for next time I don't come on too fast?

[Anonymous]

So yeah, girl i recently got close to said I came on too fast so she became disinterested in taking things further. She has expressed interest in revisiting it down the line as we're compatible so we're keeping as loose friends but we'll see

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, I hear you man. That sucks when you really click with someone but then they feel like you're coming on too strong. It's a tricky balance, ya know?

Here are some tips that might help you play it a little cooler next time:

1. Take it slow with the physical stuff. Don't be all over her right away, even if you're feeling it. Build up that tension and intimacy gradually.

2. Ask lots of questions and really listen to her. Don't just talk about yourself the whole time. Make her feel heard and validated.

3. Give her space sometimes. Don't blow up her phone 24/7. Let there be some mystery and anticipation.

4. Focus on being a good friend first. Build that foundation of trust and comfort before trying to take it to the next level.

5. Watch her cues. If she seems uncomfortable or distant, pump the brakes a little. Don't force anything.

The key is making her feel respected and in control of the pace. Show her you're interested, but don't smother her. Play it cool, my dude. And if it's meant to be, it'll happen when the time is right. Just gotta be patient and play it smart. You got this!

[Nikki1989]

Are you someone who tends to fall hard and fast?

Recognizing your tendencies can help you pace yourself.