Can someone explain what was the real purpose in dating because in my brain it comes to ulterior motives?

[Anonymous]

Ok so she apparently dated me based on my personality and didn’t think much of my physical appearance. But then suddenly my personality was boring and wasn’t exciting for her. Can someone make this make sense because processing this in my brain it seems like neither and I served a purpose for ulterior motives and when that was done I was discarded

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

She fell in love because you were safe and someone she felt she could trust, and then she fell out of love when she realized safety was part of a routine and she got bored. She’s likely a woman who has become too used to toxic relationship patterns to be able to maintain a stable relationship at that point in her life.

[Asker]

Yeah it destroyed me because prior to this I was never in a relationship and somehow I was doing everything right here I was a 29 year old autistic guy heavily leaning on everything I observed from other people in relationships and my own ideas of how special I would treat a girl if I got into a relationship with one

[In_Trance]

Jesus I bet you're as dumb as you look.
The whole point of dating is to figure out whether that person is right for you or not.
It's not an ulterior motive at all. I don't know who fed you that line of horseshit.

[Loki97]

Dating is meant to scout potential marriage options and chances are you’ll find more sex options than marriage.

[Abbycado]

Why are you anon?

[Asker]

Why does it matter if I post under anonymous or not

[Asker]

These are hurtful experiences I carry with me that I post on here to get insight on in terms of processing and to help my mental health with moving forward

[Abbycado]

Fucking coward

[Anonymous]

To win the game.