Are good men supposed to be boring?

[Anonymous]

So had a breakup she started checking out of the relationship when it came to communication she was never interested and it led to constant arguments. Sitting down talking through things apparently would trigger her so she wasn’t interested. I treated her like a queen, I cared for her when she got Covid had her stay in bed and took care of everything when she came home with strange spots on her skin one day I was like no we are gonna go to the hospital to make sure you are ok. I bought her thoughtful gifts that showed I knew her interests her favorite color was pink so I got her a pink flower covered bear and black opium perfume because she liked sweet scents for Valentine’s Day. I would surprise throughout the year with spontaneous dates where I would just take her out, one time I bought her surprise tickets to one of her favorite shows when I found out they were coming to town. Her mom would refer to me as her son in law and overall the family liked me I guess did I do this all wrong was I simply too nice do women not look for this

[itsannalee]

Not really, my man is a good man (at least i can say it now) he is nice, always supportive, takes responsibility to all his actions, doesn’t have female friends, but he is talk active, extrovert and enjoy parties.

[Asker]

Yeah I didn’t have many friends being on the autism spectrum

[LazerBean]

Never heard of that one. My husband and his brother are extremely good men, and they've always been interesting to the girls.

[AhmetHasanCan]

we have a proverb;

Those who love get fucked, those who fuck get loved.

[Asker]

Like with the way this played out I was telling my sister like I feel the universe has to be punishing me for something cause when people are saying how good I was and to have this play out the way it did

[AhmetHasanCan]

Don't be too nice, love yourself a little and don't be too nice.

Be reliable, but be a tough guy. Don't talk too much, don't ask too many questions, don't chase after women

[Asker]

I wasn’t too nice and I was always reliable like there were very questionable things that she did at the time that not only were questionable but potentially unsafe for her that I call her out on. Also when her sister was living with us and disrespecting our rules I also was very vocal

[Nikki1989]

Good men are never boring. Boring men are boring.

[EmmaMary]

@Nikki1989

Perfectly explained.

[Asker]

Ok so by anything I mentioned above do I just sound boring

[WhitneySnow]

You sound amazing. Why did she break up with you?

[Asker]

I guess if I truly knew that I wouldn’t post on here as frequently none of it makes sense it has absolutely destroyed what I thought about relationships

[BonzoInBitburg]

Good men aren't boring and boring men aren't good

[Anonymous]

Who told you you are boring?

[Iron_Man]

No im not