Girls, how might a diagnosed learning disability influence your interaction with a potential partner?

[Anonymous]

Do you think there's an element of sensitivity involved when dealing with men diagnosed with learning impairments? With this type of question, I would like to be clear on some assumptions: No criminal history, not at all threatening and has at least a modest capacity to function independently.

[silvermoon84]

I’m non-medicated ADHD and have been for most of my life. For me personally, I would have understood but unfortunately nobody really understands what it’s like to be learning disabled, neurodivergent, etc unless they’ve been symptomatic or diagnosed themselves. The good news is more people are being diagnosed now than in the 90’s when I got diagnosed, so while you may encounter a few ignorant assholes who might brush it off (ignore them by the way), I think many women would show more sensitivity.

[Asker]

You'd encounter a lot of people who say and do hurtful things; that's part of the course. I was asking more broadly how a woman might interact with someone diagnosed with a learning disability, not necessarily how to respond to mistreatment. Interesting assessment no less. Smile always, m'lady!

[Nikki1989]

It depends on how severe it is. Some learning disabilities can affect speech, and communication skills. This can make it challenging to express feelings, understand social cues.

[Asker]

How would you personally deal with difficulties they might have with communication? What language patterns might you wish to employ from your own experience dating?

[khyaeliza]

I have a learning disability and it can affect communication skills

[khyaeliza]

I’ve been in a relationship before and it never stopped me from dating though. Also depends on what type of learning disability. I have trouble with reading, and math, and test taking, writing papers ( so everything school related) and when I was little teachers always said my communication skills weren’t that great but my communication has actually gotten better. so mine isn’t that severe I guess you could say. Based on what you asked the user below as far as handling difficulties they might have with communication I would do a bunch of things: I would try to establish open lines of communication so thoughts and feelings can be expressed w/ out judgement, use alternative communication methods ( like writing notes or even texting) , be patient and understanding and also would focus on strengths ( the last two are important in any relationship in my opinion, cause everyone has strengths and weaknesses ( not just people with ld’s) so hope this helps.