Alright: based on your poll, it seems like you're having trouble with your self-confidence (that or you're going through a rough time right now). So instead of answering your question directly, I will say this:
You are not your disability.
Having a disability sucks, but to define yourself by it is to succumb to it. So what if you're not brilliant when it comes to academics? Most people aren't! But there's more than one kind of intelligence: in fact, the psychologist Howard Gardner identified 8, and a 9th was later added to the list. (Here they are, if you're interested! :) link ) As you can see, only two of them (linguistic and logical-mathematical) relate directly to what most people would be tested on in school.
So, of these nine, which are you good at? Don't be upset by the ones that you have trouble with: after all, no one excels at them all, or even at most. But maybe you're a brilliant musician, or an excellent athlete, or an amazing artist. Maybe your brain doesn't hurt the way most people's do when you think about the meaning of life, or the nature of good and evil. Maybe you could survive for weeks in the wilderness, while none of your friends would last a day.
All of the above are examples of intelligence.
So yes, you may have weaknesses, but you also have strengths. Your learning disability, whatever it may be, will never have an impact on the rest of your talents, and cannot possibly control your life unless you allow it to.
So, to better answer your question: even if they don't fit the narrow, traditional definition of "book-smart", everyone is intelligent in one way or another. Everyone is capable. So dating a 'stupid person' is a non-issue, because stupid people simply don't exist. :)
I really, really hope this helps. :)
I am currently dating a man who is educationally challenged. I actually came across this while researching support groups for this very thing. I have been with him for a year and a half & it is challenging at time. I am currently in school for my masters and he doesn't have his GED-hes actually actually only on an 8th grade learning level and he's 31, I just turned 25. Although I love him a lot it is very difficult and heart breaking when i see he struggle. He is in a GED program but has made little to no progress in the last year and and a half. He's a HARD worker, a man of God and treats me well--hes a provider and truly cares about me. B/c of his disability he works two jobs to pay his bills and really wants a full time job but fears he won't get one w/o his GED. I really love him but don't know where this will go. As an education woman i wonder about stuff like our future, if we have kids, and, how we will support us as a family later in life ( if we stay together) ect...which i could talk to someone who knew what i was going through...
Usually when people troll, they go anon. =P
There's a difference between "stupid" and "with a learning disability." One of my best friends has a learning disability, and even though she doesn't have the same thought process as other people do, she's a very smart girl. She's also a lot of fun, very talented, and she cracks me up. We've been friends since high school, and it always killed me to see other girls in our class laughing at her while she gave oral reports. They made fun of her just because they didn't understand her.
So, to answer your question, yes, I would date a boy with a learning disability.
if seems like your low self esteem is far more of a problem than how smart you are.
and I would date a girl with learning disabilities so long as she had the same mental age as she really was. struggling with reading, or numbers is fine, so long as her non-educational mental state was normal.
Trust me, mate. Smarts don't count for much when you're young. I'm one of the smartest people I know and it doesn't help me get girls one bit, lol. Lots of girls will look past it, don't worry.
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The only thing that matters to me is the difference between the way we think. If I'm way faster than him at understanding things, it's probably going to be hard. I don't have that much patience. Same thing if it's the other way.
The ideal is dating someone you don't feel superior or inferior to, be it intellectually-wise or physically-wise.
Is that an answer you will "handle" ?
And don't even try to go "so that's a no" or "all of you women are the same". If you wanted answers, you should be able to accept them.
By the way : your poll is not exactly useful...
I have before, its not a huge deal. Just because you aren't "smart" that doesn't mean we can't carry on conversations :p
And you poll is bullsh*t.
Also how do you go from "Please be honest I can handle it" to "What a shock two said no I wonder why."? I thought you could handle it... handling it means cut the snark.
As long as he can understand me and knows how to write,read,do somethings and can work then we are fine, he doesn't need to have that wow brain,it is not like I am so smart =P .
Lol Why all the choices are negative?
I chose B wrongly, I meant I would.
But I wonder what kind of learning problems do you have?
i would still date him.. just because he can't learn things as fast or as much as me does not mean he isn't a good person.
I would. A learning disability isn't a big deal when you are on top of your tasks. There are a lot of people in society with learning disabilities and are unaware that they have one, so I wouldn't mind if a cute guy says he has a learning disability.
Your poll is wrong by the way, it says "no" two times ;)
It's not because someone has a learning disability that they're dumb. You have different kinds of knowledge, you got "school smart", "world smart", ... you know.
I don't really care about IQ, as long as he knows what he's talking about, knows what's going on in the world and can talk about stuff that's going on, I don't care about how smart he is.
To me, even though I am young, intelligence is probably one of the most important traits in guy . So when you say learning disability, it could mean he's very smart but has trouble learning new material or is all together not smart. I wouldn't mind the first one to a certain extent but the second one would be a deal breaker for me.
Look. the only 2 options you've given on the poll are negative. How can you expect several positive responses if you don't give us the option?
My last boyfriend had a learning disability. I didn't notice anything about him being less smart than anyone else. The thing is, intelligence and learning abilities aren't the same thing. You can have a learning disability and still be an intelligent person. So I don't see the problem... :)
What the f*** is with the poll? Both say no... how is that a fair poll? lol
If he's witty, sharp, and can keep up with my nonsense words, then why not. As long as we are on the same page, and you get my stupid not really funny but funny jokes, all sails are clear.
I think you're trying to be a bit sad here. Women tell there's no problem with it (some of them do) and you say: "no you're wrong you would've said no!"
That's just sad tbh and if women don't date you, it's because of that.
What's the difference between option A and option B?
I would in a heartbeat, if I really liked him it wouldn't matter!
ummm you wanted an honest answer yet your penalizing the two who said no in your update... don't ask questions you don't want the answer to
I have dated a male with a learning disability. When I got to know him I didn't see him has somene that wasn't "that smart".
Depends on the learning disability. If he can't remember how to act like an ashhole then that's excusable :)
It depends on the disability and the severity! Having a learning disability doesn't mean you're not smart.
yeah depending
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