How picky are you, in terms of who you find attractive?

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TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

I'm extremely picky. I'm picky about looks, character, personality, and motivation. That's just the truth.

That doesn't mean a perfect 10 in looks (I'm not!); it just means I know what I am attracted to physically.

It doesn't mean wealthy, it just means similar goals and views on money.

It doesn't mean a perfect human being who never makes mistakes (that'd be horrible to live with), it just means someone who is committed to growth and has empathy.

It doesn't mean someone who trains 6 hours a day and works 10. It means someone who is capable of setting reasonable goals and following through.

So yes, I'm extremely picky. But my pickiness is kind of like my own personal version of perfect; what's perfect for me might not be for someone else.

Kayla45 · Accepted Answer

I wasn’t really picky, I initially thought I wasn’t very pretty or popular to find anyone that would like me.

Here I am now married with a wonderful husband, so I guess life can throw a curveball and dreams can come true. I’m blessed to have it.

HawkPerception · Answer

I'd say I'm pretty damn picky. I'd rather be alone than settle for someone who doesn't fit the bill for me.

I do find physical attraction important, but not to the point of them having to be a model. As long as I'm attracted to them and they put effort into their health, fitness, and appearance, I'm happy with that.

As for personality, the more similar they are in terms of views, interests, sense of humor, vision of the future/life they want to live, sexual compatibility, the more compatible they would be to me.

Summeroflove · Answer

I’m picky to some extent as anyone should be. There are extremes of having no standards to having absolutely unrealistic ones.

A lot of people go for physical looks even if they have nothing else going for them. Most people can look good if they put effort into themselves. People don’t know what to look for and end up miserable in the end.

Finchie40 · Answer

I am very picky these days , mainly because I am over selfish lying girls’

WhiteSteve · Answer

I used to be EXTREMELY picky. When I was much younger, I got it in my head that “hot chicks will bring more hot chicks”, largely off of an episode of Seinfeld🤦‍♂️😂

https://www.youtube.com/embed/drNHzLxL2CA

“It’s like I’ve already been with one of their own. My hand is stamped, I come and go as I please.”😂

I don’t really like the “10 scale” as a general rule, but for the sake of clarity in this conversation, there was a period in my 20s where I would only date (and more importantly, BE SEEN WITH) women I deemed an “8-and-up.” And honestly…. it kind of worked. But it was at the expense of quite a few ladies who I think, retrospectively, would have been great. And they were a 7.5 sometimes🤦‍♂️😂 I’m fortunate one of my 8+ women worked out, because I might be wracked with regret otherwise.

Also, a little awkward and maybe unpopular to some to say, but….”adult” entertainment has actually LOWERED my physical standards. I bring that up because a lot of detractors claim it gives unrealistic expectations, and while that may be true of the goings-on, I don’t think it’s universally true of the physical attributes. Yeah, you see plenty of fake tits and BBLs and inflated lips, haha. But there are also a lot of kind of “real” women too, and different attributes and body types and compositions. Like you’ll see a woman in her clothes and be like “meh”, but once she’s out of them and in the act…. that’s a party I’d like to be invited to, haha. And I see similar women in everyday life, and there might’ve been a time when I would’ve passed on it, but now I see there can be more than meets the eye than the way your jeans fit. When I was young and inexperienced, you might mention cellulite to me and I’d have been like “ew, PASS”, but nowadays I’m like “that’s normal as fuck and just part of the landscape. Who cares?” That’s not to say I’ve abandoned all standards, but I’ve realized my previous standards were pretty fucking stupid, haha.

Facially…I’m still pretty picky though. I’m a sucker for a pretty face, haha. But sometimes I find women pretty and others will be trashing them, I don’t know if it’s me or them who are off base. I think I can be won over be one excellent feature, maybe. But I would say I’m “a face guy” if I had to nail it down.

How picky are you, in terms of who you find attractive?

Kelley1 · Answer

I am as picky and perhaps more picky than I can afford to be. My sexual market value peaked at age 18 and, now at age 20, it is beginning to go downhill. Therefore, I cannot afford to be as picky since I am not engaged. With my sexual market value dropping, I I realized that I did not have time to wait before lowering my standards. If I am not engaged in the next six months, I will lower my standards even more. That is because I will not hang around hoping to get engaged while my sexual market value is dropping.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I would say I have different standards for different people in my life.
Meaning for a woman to be my friend the bar is fairly low.
For us to date it’s higher.
For us to get into a serious committed relationship it’s higher still
And for us to consider reproducing together it’s extremely high (if for no other reason than that I would want my kids to have the best of genes)

Problem with standards these days is that they come with a lot of loneliness on the other end.
Because when you truly start thinking with your big head not the slightest less big one you will no longer just settle for any lady that walks through your door

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I know who I want... but I wouldn't say I'm picky... be smart, funny, have your opinion, and be able to discuss it, be respectful, and be able to put your pride aside if we need to solve a problem

hahahmm · Answer

Very picky. But this is not just about but also personality/character. When I was young I once made the mistake of lowering my standards because people said you shouldn't be picky. She turned out to have really bad personality plus be meh looking. Ha. Moved on quick.

aromatic_xo · Answer

It’s more about the demeanour than anything else, there are a lot of men I find attractive but when I get to know them the way they act, walk , eat, talk etc slowly starts to disattract me and he can be gorgeous man with nice features.

It’s all about the vibe, the demeanor that I look for that even amplifies their look.

MemeSupreme · Answer

i'm pretty picky bc i got like a bullshitter radar and it works like a charm

like im not picky about looks... if i fuck with your style and vibe then it's all good. i just got to figure out if you're a good person and fun to be around WHICH is hard to come by

virtualwasp · Answer

I'm not someone who needs to be in a relationship and don't mind if I'm single. I'll stick to my list as I only need one guy in my life and out of a population of 4 billions men in the world, I need just one to also like me.

Aimée__LJ · Answer

I have very high probably unrealistic expectations but it's hard to compromise on them. Part of me is like why should I settle?

MoonFace2 · Answer

I’m picky. I won’t date an ugly man. I’ve tried, but inner beauty can only be valued for so long in a romantic relationship.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Overall, I do like nice genetics, but have accepted character flaws, like bad teeth or height and age differences

Nikki1989 · Answer

I am attracted to personalities, not looks.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Well I wouldn't say picky but I am read the rooms now that I am older. I can tell if people like me or not.

drummerdude25 · Answer

Only as picky as I need to be… and I don’t need someone in my life that isn’t going to be a net benefit. 🧐

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I'm not super picky because I have dated guys I thought were ugly.. but maybe a little more than I used to be.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I'm not especially picky, but there are certain combinations of features that I find attractive that I kind of need to have to find the woman sexually appealing.

NathanDavis · Answer

not at all.. just three things... smart, interesting and funny

RavVid · Answer

Very picky and pickier than is justified by my own level of attractiveness

Garud · Answer

I am not very picky about looks, but I am very picky about nature.

slatyb · Answer

I'm more picky about intelligence than about appearance.

Jennz6 · Answer

Somewhat picky cause I don’t want to get a STD

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

D**N SKIPPY !!! No fat and/or old broads;long hair, great legs and bottom, average build, BIG boobs, girlish voice and personality.

LiamJHayden · Answer

About looks, not very. About personality, very much so.

OddBeMe · Answer

They have to look exactly like my 2nd grade teacher

PepperJackson · Answer

She needs to have a brain. I can't go back to stupid.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm picky. I want taller lady in my life with kindness, beauty and intelligence 🥰

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of b****es lying on this question.😆😆😆

Emily12344 · Answer

I mean yea I’m quite picky, I got standards

MarjorieJ · Answer

A well hung brain is cool.

chrissykerdock · Answer

long as he has a pulse

Caroline91 · Answer

They have to be kind.

XXblack88 · Answer

I say moderately picky

Dongie · Answer

You changed your avatar.  Not picky.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm quite picky, but reasonable.

UrsulaY · Answer

Its chemistry.

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

Very picky

khyab1 · Answer

I’m very picky

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