Answering why I and most other guys in general have given up on dating?

[Anonymous]

If you go on YouTube or tick tock there are 1000s of vids talking about dropping marriage rates & long term relationships. One big theme of it is that men have just given up & there's a lot of people asking why so here's "PART" of my & a lot of other guys reasons why.

One big part is a lot of us simply can't afford to date. I take several expensive medications & can't afford them without medicade so I live on SSI since if I get a job Im almost certain to lose my medicade. Im genuinely too poor to work. Most jobs at average mens fingertips plus food, rent & taxes cost too much. Id have half the spare income working.

I could manage 2-3 dates a month at most since no one wants to "go Dutch" in America. At best it would be the movies or mid-restaurant & I wouldn't be able to afford any kind of gifts or a ring Id also have to lower my QOL. Men are expected to go take you nice places give gifts & pay for dates but most are working a mid job with mid pay best case.

64% of woman think financial stability is most important in a relationship but in the current economy people are struggling with groceries let alone dates. This is especially true for men who have never had a lower rate of collage success yet woman want men to earn more than them.

How is an average guy supposed to have a shot dating when on apps any girl can swipe right on who they want? it's a 3 to 1 ratio If you're average or bellow in money or looks dating isn't possible since you're dismissed at a glance. Nobody meets in public anymore it's all online. I can't even make friends let alone find a girl that likes me.

Lastly rejection. Asking someone out is incredibly stressful. a lot of men are sacred to even talk to woman since they're scared they'll be seen as creepy. Worse is how often woman are rude about it. If you're not interest that's fine but dont laugh at us, dont say eww, dont stand us up, dont milk us for drinks, & don't give us pity dates. It hurts 3X worse than a no. I've had all those happen.

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Funniest thing I hear is how a lot of women think men owe them traditional benefits that men gave women for eons but she is unwilling to give anything traditional and feels insulted/used if she is asked to. It's just not going to work.

[Anonymous]

I haven't given up on dating, but I am increasingly cynical about dating and today's women. I know there are good ones out there, but they seem to be few and far between.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO

[Asker]

I gave up after the last girl I had a relationship with dumped me. She was the only woman I've ever been attached to that made me feel like I was cared about as much as I cared for them. She had massive mental health and trust issues though and the relationship couldn't grow because she couldn't let me get close to her because she was scared of getting hurt. She was literally raised to be insecure. She was schizophrenic and her brother was so far on the autist spectrum if you touched him on accident, he'd grab the nearest thing he could use as a weapon and start swinging even to family. Her father was SA'd by his dad and his dad was SA'd by his grandpa and he was super messed up and I think where she got her schizophrenia. Her mother was always judging her saying she wasn't good enough and hated her for being Bi instead of straight her mother is untreated bipolar and was also physically abusive her. Her mom would slap her and scream at her during some of her episodes talking about how much of a disappointment she was. I loved her I really did but she was broken her whole life and there was no way I could get her to let me in. She later dumped me and I wanted to stay friends but she blocked me and I later found out she blocked me because "She was worried she'd want to get back together because she was still in love with me." That honestly stung worse than getting dumped rudely. It's been four years and I still cry when I think about her sometimes and I've spent the last 3 valentines days drinking whiskey all day long. Number four comes around soon. My dad got me a nice high-quality whiskey for Christmas "Knappogue Castle 12-year aged single malt Irish whiskey. I'm going to down that this Valentine's Day probably why break tradition after four years.

[oldpigg]

I've never really been interested in spending my money and time on women, but I generally agree with the post.