Why some guys give up on dating so soon?

[Anonymous]

[VanillaSalt]

Because they don’t know what their doing.


Dating apps are the most used source of dating in the states today.


Dating for women on apps goes like this. She has 500 likes and has to choose the best of them usually limited by only a picture.


Dating for men is like this. He likes everything within 500 miles and gets ghosted by every match.


In 6 months of literally liking every woman within 30 miles of my city I’ve been on a single date , had 3 no shows to dates, been ghosted too many times…


Not really related but my coworker is mid 40s, married for 20 years and brags about his hoes… just saying women pick the wrong choices.

[Lionman95]

Because some guys don´t have a well working dating strategy. Guys are not born womanizers and some guys have a harder time finding a connection to women in general or to a woman in particular. Since many guys start dating with no clue what women could be interested in them or what women are looking in a guy.

Depending on the age many guys are insecure and shy, too. It takes boldness for them to step up and ask them out and if it doesn´t work it can be felt like a blow in the face. Some guys stand up again from and some others get to a point: "Hey it´s not worth it since all the girls reject me."

I think one of the problems for them that guys rarely talk with other guys about it. They rather tried to figure by themselves which makes them come to different conclusions why it works or not.

So guys either learn from their mistakes or stay single all their life since they never understood that the solution to their problem isn´t that complicated.

[cth96190]

What is that solution?
I walked away about 30 years ago.
I tried for about 20 years.
All that I got was rejection (often nasty).
The two females who pretended to be interested used me for their own purposes, then broke my heart.
A man can take only so much rejection and failure
before he realises that he is wasting his time.
The ‘exciting’ bad boys can have the women. They deserve each other.

[Anonymous]

Men are being brainwashed into being weak.

[VanillaSalt]

There’s truth in this. But which came first the chicken or the egg.

I believe men chase success to catch women. Very few men work cause they want to or get rich just cause they wanna be rich. Their trying to be more of the people that matter. Family or the women they want to build family with.

Men today have no direction in life. They don’t know what to aim for or why. This limits their growth.

Are men weak so women don’t want them or is women not wanting men making them weak?

The quality of people as a whole gone way down.