Why do I fall in love when a man says he’s gonna ch o k e me?

[Jdirnrje]

I looove when a man dominates me and talks to me like his dumb child. The thing is these men usually don’t stick around. What do I do?

[ohsheeT]

Well you have to ask yourself why they don't stick around

I mean what you're talking about it's hot it's kinky and it can be lots of fun

... And when he's doing this he's in that moment and he's paying attention to you too and depending on how your reaction is or how strong of a reaction is going to make him feel a certain way and if it's too strong they're probably not going to be wanting to be a part of it.. . So there's a good chance you could be just overbearing or you're the dom. And making them do it but I'm not sure cuz I don't know LOL.

Yeah but would then right it can be lots of fun. Just make sure that when a guy choke you he does it on the side of your neck and not straight down in the front of your neck there's a lot of people in prison right now just because they killed their partner by accident because they didn't know what they were doing and that's pretty sad so make sure it's never straightforward on the neck it's always off to the side

[Anonymous]

Have you tried dating a regular guy and telling him you want a man who shows power and control over the relationship.

If your dating guys who are already like that odds are good he's not the stable sort.
In our 'modern' western culture men who follow the rules are given rules not to be commanding and take charge at all.

That mean for a man to be masculine like that he has to be a rule breaker and rule breakers also break the rule of loyalty.

So to get what you want and have someone who follows rules you need to get a man who would agree to follow rules to agree to change the rules with you. Hence pick a regular man and work with him to be more commanding.

[Jdirnrje]

Thanks that’s an idea. The thing is I’m extremely passive and submissive by default like 24/7. So I only attract men who actually come after me.
I’d love a calm and stable man but they never make a move sadly.

[Jdirnrje]

I have realy low confidence and social anxiety so it’s highly unlikely I will be able to really put myself out there.

[Opinion Owner]

@jdirnrje
You just need to put yourself in a position where a regular guy would be around you and get to know you by the rules he was taught.

Unfortunately the West is dying in large part because those 'modern' rules are soo screwed up and non-functional they do take forever to work. So your kind of in a bind particularly at your age and you need to take a leap of faith.

I would suggest picturing yourself as an actress come up with a line for an introduction to start the conversation and just force yourself to do it. Do this several times and you will get over your shyness.

I know you won't like it as a shy low confidence person there are few things more scary or difficult. But you will strike out often and you will get use to it. Unfortunately this is what the 'modern' rules require of women.

[Jdirnrje]

Thanks. I can say hi to someone like if I’m
Just being friendly. But as for approaching a man romantically I can’t do that. It’s not right.

[Opinion Owner]

You really just need to make it clear to him within the rules he is expected to follow that its ok to chase you and it would be rewarding.

The rules are terrible and highly unnatural for girls making that a difficult task but you have to find a way.

Whom you like is also going to be a problem if it happens to be the same guys all the other girls like. Loyalty again is also a factor of options. A guy with many options is likely to be less loyal, and at your age if he has a lot of options the reason he is single is very likely to be disloyalty.

[Jdirnrje]

Thanks. You sound like you hve out much thiguht into these subject matters.

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a New Year's Day Troll award.

[Nikki1989]

Another account, same old bollocks!

[Lynx122]

Try and go on a bdsm site to find a partner.

[Summeroflove]

Lmao…. Good luck to you

[WhitneySnow]

They just want sex

[Jdirnrje]

True but I want a man like that but who marries me
And is loyal

[WhitneySnow]

Hope you can find him

[Jdirnrje]

Thanks I hope he exists

[DryGermanGuy]

Get professional help, you eternal weirdo.

[jahaims]

Go to therapy since you lack introspection

[zombiewoof]

Maybe they want more of a challenge

[Jdirnrje]

I’m dead. Yeah I’m the most passive submissive chick in existence at this point.