How long till I can date?

[fitnessqueen96]

My husband passed away in September I've been focusing on my kids work and my self growth i start going out early December but some times I feel bad especially when guys go up me what can I do

[ohsheeT]

This is only going to be up to you it's when you feel that you are ready to allow yourself to do so

I'm sure it has to be a very hard part of life for you at the moment if somebody is to hold your hand or put their arms around you or look deep into your eyes and you feel that energy I'm sure there's a part of you that doesn't know how to accept that or doesn't want to accept that even because it's still not real that your husband has passed and you feel like you're doing something wrong

I can understand where you're coming from I mean I can feel that through your words I think it's just going to be time

And I'm sure you've already accepted and acknowledged that your husband has passed and you have to understand that he would want the best for you so he would want you to date and want you to be happy

So I guess it's truly going to be up to you when you want to actually just let it all go and and say okay it's okay if I do this

[Red_Arrow]

People who have been married for a considerable length of time have a deep feeling for the person they lost, especially if they had children together. Usually they do not develop feelings for someone else for a while. I did not consider dating for years after the death of my wife. The woman I am now dating lost her husband over three years ago and had no interest in moving on till a year ago and became interested in only me as she and her family had known me for years.

You could start dating the day after your husband died, but that would say something about your feelings for him that would not be complimentary. But if that is what you want, waiting just to make things appear proper, you can go that way. It is up to you.

[Summeroflove]

Well that is different for everyone. When you’re ready is when you start dating again when you meet someone that you truly feel attracted to. Don’t force it allow yourself to grieve the loss and focus on your children.

I’m very sorry I’ve never lost a spouse and it’s one of the hardest things someone can go through besides loosing a child. Some people never remarry and others remarry fast. When you feel like it’s time that’s when it will be time. Don’t force anything

[Zack-Bann]

The exact amount of time is up to you but 3 months after the funeral you’re already dating is kinda extreme by every standard.


Humans don’t grieve so fast.


Make sure you’re not trying to fill the void he left as fast as possible instead of dealing with the pain and healing.


Or you’ll be stuck in a loop of toxic relationships.


And yes, do expect judgement from people in your life because some might argue the body is not yet cold

[Cormac995]

That's 100% your decision I honestly don't think I could ever re marry if I became a widower. If I hit the point where I'm life partners with a woman, I'm staying loyal so when I die, she knows I waited to see her again.

[jahaims]

It's only been a few months and you are thinking about dating? Your husband dodged a bullet when he died holy smokes.

[Zack-Bann]

“Dodging a bullet by dying” is pretty ironic

[ChicoFromThe305]

Only you know the answer to that

[fitnessqueen96]

I've tried moving I just feel bad

[ChicoFromThe305]

I would imagine it feels like you are betraying your husband, but you have to consider that you being someone he loves, he wouldn't want you to be alone and miserable, I'm sure it would be the same if the roles were reversed

[fitnessqueen96]

Thank you I appreciate you..

[ChicoFromThe305]

💯💯

[CindyRuns]

Simple... when you're comfortable with it !!!

[slatyb]

Whenever you feel ready. No one else gets a vote.

[Anonymous]

One year then no one can criticize you.

[CubaPirate]

Only you know the answer

[ehatsham_hussain]

It's all on you,

[ehatsham_hussain]

But i suggest you to remarry with any wise man , besides of just dating.