This is my 1st date in years. Im so intimidated, is this normal?

[Anonymous]

We've been talking since November and we are finally discussing a meet up, but I'm scared. It's been so long since I've been on a date and we decided nothing big, which is OK, but the way he said. "I agree, that you shouldn't try to do too much when first meeting

If would be so awkward if you meet someone in person, but find out you vibe with them well but still have to spend the afternoon with them lol

Simple meetup. If it doesn't works, you both leave. If it works, then you can hang out a bit longer. Win win"

Maybe it's because it's been so long that I'm getting scared, but I feel like ten minutes into the meetup, he'll by like "nah, let's leave" or maybe he's already decided during the texting, but is meeting up with me just to make it seem like he put forth an effort with me, you know? Being polite. I don't know. I think he's cool, but I feel so intimidated, it feels more like a test now. I guess I'm just scared.

[Valdemort]

I think it's kinda normal, but you've just gotta try and enjoy the experience and be open and welcoming to it. You don't know what's gonna happen yet, so if anything - tell the person you feel nervous since it's been years. Just be honest, we're probably all a little nervous when dating

[Asker]

I feel abit better about it now. I definitely was anxious and overthought a few things, but going over more details. I feel more relaxed. Our date is next weekend. I'll update it here

[Valdemort]

Hope you'll have fun times!

[Asker]

Sorry, late updating you, but it was really good. We were both awkward and nervous, but a small coffee date turned into arcade and dinner. We had a lot of fun

[Valdemort]

That's awesome! Great to hear, hope it works out. Thanks for the update :D

[Anonymous]

Honestly at this point the overthinking isn’t worth it. If it doesn’t work out then maybe this is a sign that online dating (whether you met him intentionally or not) just isn’t for you. You go into it knowing ahead of time that this part is inevitable, and if you don’t have the confidence or can’t do it without freaking out then maybe the traditional route is more for you. That way there’s no big reveal or all this extra stress leading up to it.

[Asker]

Yeah, I did. I felt fine at first, but then I think I panicked and misinterpreted his message. After talking abit more especially on the phone it's relaxed me abit more. I'll update after the date

[Asker]

The date went really well, just wanted to update everyone

[Nikki1989]

Not really, but going on dates never bothered me.

[Asker]

Lucky 😩😩

[Anonymous]

Relax! Let me put your mind at ease. He's probably just trying to f*** you and it isn't going to work out. So just relax and have fun while it lasts. Then come back and cry to us when it all falls apart.

Good luck!👍

[Asker]

Ok.. I'll make sure to do that I guess 😅

[Asker]

The date was amazing, we started with coffee ended with arcade and dinner. We are seeing eachother next week too.

[Opinion Owner]

Cool, hopefully it works out. We're pulling for you.👍