How do I make it up to her?

[Anonymous]

I've been talking to this girl for 5 months I asked her out and she declined but we still are somewhat sexual towards one another I asked her if it was OK that I be intimate with other women because we aren't together and she said it was fine fast forward I send her a picture of me and she starts questioning who the girl in the photo is and I brushed the question off at first (my mistake) but the next day I told her the truth now she is pissed off at me. She told me to give her space, and I did. Then she was upset I gave her space, so I again tried talking to her, but she still seemed upset.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a tough situation. It sounds like you've really messed up here and hurt this girl's feelings. Going behind her back and being intimate with other women when you guys weren't even officially together was kind of a shady move, even if she said it was fine. And then lying about it and trying to hide it just made things worse.

I get that you two aren't officially a couple, but if there's clearly some sexual and emotional intimacy there, you still gotta be upfront and honest with her. She trusted you enough to open up to you in that way, and you betrayed that trust.

Now she's pissed, and rightfully so. Giving her space when she asked for it was the right call, but then trying to talk to her again when she was still upset wasn't the best move. You gotta let her cool down and process this on her own terms.

The best thing you can do now is give her some time and space, but also be willing to have an honest, vulnerable conversation with her when she's ready. Apologize sincerely, acknowledge how you messed up, and let her know you value her and want to rebuild that trust, if that's what you truly want. But don't pressure her - she has to be the one to decide if she can forgive you.

This is gonna take time and effort on your part to make it right. You gotta be patient, man. Rushing in and trying to force a resolution is only gonna push her further away. Just focus on giving her the space she needs right now, and be prepared to have an open and honest talk when the time is right. Good luck, dude. This is gonna be a tough one to come back from, but it's not impossible if you handle it the right way.

[SueShe]

Fornication is always a problem, whether you are in a relationship or not. Why is it that copulating is the number one issue when people are together? Why can't you refrain from doing it?

Is it because you are ruled by your testosterone? Is it because you want to dominate women? Is it because you simply cannot control who you copulate with?

Life would be so much easier if people would refrain from fornicating left and right. The world would be a better place for everyone, except of course when politicians want to rule that world.

Give her the space she needs and refrain from being intimate with everyone that has reached puberty and you will avoid a lot of problems in your life.

[Flower7]

This situation is not going to work out.

[HelpfulWoman]

ugh fuck off. this is dumb.

[In_Trance]

This is fkn retarded. Move on

[Anonymous]

You're dealing with an erratic young woman.