I fucked up how do I make it up to her?

[Anonymous]

I cheated. Back in May 22, I performed with my band. Before we performed for the crowd, I had a couple of drinks with a few people I know who are part of the crowd. I wasn't emotionally well and then this girl comforted me. We laughed at my problems and sorrows. One thing led to another and she kissed me intently. My girlfriend and I had a fight prior to my gig. I was mad and I was drunk. So I returned the kiss and eventually we had sex. I didn't enjoy when I performed for the crowd and after we finished, I went to her and expressed my frustrations. She said I shouldn't care because we both wanted it and that we'll never see each other again. And then I saw her again yesterday at my gig when I was still performing. She just stood and stared at me. When I was done, she approached and complimented my performance. I was a little scared because why was she there? I could smell the alcohol in her breath. She hugged me but I pushed her away. I told her that what happened between us was a fucking mistake and that I was drunk when it happened. And now she's blackmailing me that she'll tell my girlfriend. I wanted to forget everything that happened back in May 22. I didn't tell a single soul. I'm terrified. She knows my girlfriend because of my social media. She said she'll expose me. I don't want to lose her because of this fucking bitch. I know I fucked up back in May 22 but I regretted all of it. I promised I'd be better and I am better right now. She said she'll tell her if I don't treat her. She wants me to help her with her job and her schoolworks. If I don't, she'll my girlfriend. Please, I know I screwed up but I AM BETTER NOW. How can I get away with this? I don't want my girlfriend to know. I just want everything to be normal again. I want to get away from this.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Damn that's tough and I've had my share of chicks trying to blackmail me in just the same way. One time I got away with it by using my friend's phone and texted her like I was my girlfriend... it was difficult because both these girls are Japanese and it took all my language skills to pull it off (I'm straight up American).

I would suggest slowly blocking that chick out of your social media and communicating that you're already destroyed which would suck the power she has over you out of her. Then the best hope would be she loses interest, but if she shows up to your shows, she's obviously part of the same scene, so that would be difficult. Hard to say anything for sure.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Get ahead of it.

Admit to your girlfriend you cheated, and let the fallout occur.

Being honest is literally the only move you have left. Continuing to lie is only going to make it worse.

You'll probably be dumped, which you honestly deserve, and you'll have to see this as a lesson.

If you really loved your girlfriend, you'd have kept it in your pants.

Instead, you love your anger, ego, and emotion more than you can love another person.

That's your work, bud. Leave your girlfriend and spend time fixing yourself up. So you don't hurt the people you love because you have a fight and you're butthurt.

That's a child's action, not a grown ass man's.

[countrygirl8754]

Tell ur girlfriend the whole truth
And tell her that ur not like ur past at all and u learned ur lesson and everything else

[exitseven]

You have 3 options and none are good. You can be proactive and tell your girlfriend what happened and ask for forgiveness. You can do nothing and hope this girl is bluffing or you can do what she tells you to do and your girlfriend probably finds out anyway.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[CallmeTheKnight]

Tell your girlfriend what happened. Otherwise, you'll end up doing something stupid.

You shouldn't have cheated bro. Alcohol and emotionally vulnerable or not, you wanted it as bad as that groupie.

Tell your girl and let whatever happen, happen. She'll more than likely leave you, which she should, but you'll get a burden off yourself.

You got some soul searching to do, because you didn't change for the better if you're worked up about it.

[Shamalien]

You have to tell your girlfriend. Don’t be a fucking asshole and compound your betrayal by lying about it

[WhitneySnow]

Tell your girlfriend before she does