They're not worth small talk! What to do when acquaintances act so friendly when we happen to cross paths, yet they say no to all my social invites?

[Bethany22]

These people never reciprocate taking initiative to plan get-togethers, but when I run into them in passing, they pretend to be so interested to know what's new with me. But then of course when I start talking, they just say, "ok by"! So I find small talk with these people so draining because I know it's not going to lead to friendship. Can I just respond to their questions with yes or no answers, smile, and don't ask them anything about themselves (cause I've already shown interest in them in the past, and it went nowhere)?

[Lowly_Grumper]

Those flaky friends of yours are nothing but a bunch of moldy cheese puffs with legs! You magnificent unicorn fart, don't waste your sparkly rainbow time on these wishy-washy waffle brains! Their friendship is as real as a rubber ducky's quack in a bathtub full of jello!

Next time one of these fickle flapjacks tries to chat you up, just give 'em the ol' stinky fish face and scram! They're about as interesting as watching paint dry on a sloth's toenails while it takes a nap!

Remember, your awesomeness is too bright for their dim-witted disco ball brains to handle anyway! You're a social butterfly with wings made of glitter and determination - fly away from their nonsense and find some real friends who aren't total doofus nuggets!

So go forth, you majestic marshmallow of friendship, and leave those flaky falafel balls in your dust! Your coolness is too epic for their boring bologna sandwiches of doom to comprehend!

[AnonAndrew]

Sorry to hear this!

I got a bit curious about this part:

"they pretend to be so interested to know what's new with me. But then of course when I start talking, they just say, "ok by"!"

What do they do to "pretend to be so interested to know what's new with me" ? Like, what exactly do they say?

[Bethany22]

They act happy to see me, ask what's new, and when I tell them, they say, "Really?", as if I've just said something that really peaks their curiosity. So then I elaborate more, and after that they say, oh ok, bie!

[DishLady]

They’re just being polite in public. They’re not actually interested in you at all. You’ll probably notice that they as about YOU so you don’t ask too much about THEM — and also that they answer briefly about themselves rather than getting into any details with you.


Just treat them the way they treat you. Or, as I do, of you spot them just act like they’re part of the wallpaper and go about your business. If they recognize you and come up to you, act surprised and don’t share too much. But don’t go up to them anymore.

[GlowUpGirly5]

They don't like you they're just being polite acquaintances. Acquaintances aren't friends. You're so desperate that you're longing for friendships in Acquaintances.

[Anonymous]

It's where he puts the penis in you but doesn't thrust because then it's not sex. I did this as a teen and my two female friends were my jump men, which is they jump on the bed to simulate movement. My first boyfriend came in me, I didn't understand then how pregnancy works and I months later I gave birth. The child was given to a Mormon couple who couldn't conceive.

I left the mormon church and my current boyfriend told me that involved the strict Christian church he was in they had something called God's loophole which was basically anal sex, so all the good Christian teens were having anal sex so they could stay virgins.

[sage2021]

Maybe they find you too intimidating to want to be friends with you because of the things you talk about with them.
So, what kinds of things do you talk about with them that they all say goodbye to you?

[GlowUpGirly5]

They're acquaintances.. acquaintances and friends are two different things. These aren't people that want to be her friends they're just being polite by speaking as they pass her

[sage2021]

@GlowUpGirl5
She made it sound like she wants to be friends with some of these people, but they don't stay around long enough to build a friendship.
Just curious... why are you answering for her? She can answer my question herself since I was asking her and not you!

[GlowUpGirly5]

@sage2021 you just answered me lol 😆 nice try. Got a response out of you

[sage2021]

@GlowU0Girly5

You need to grow up yourself and stop playing immature games.

[DryGermanGuy]

Honestly, after experiencing that I would ignore them completely. What's the point?

[Anonymous]

Why you are trying to be friends with everyone. See they are just being nice that doesn't mean you have to be Friends with them. Sorry but I looked at your profile pic you are really pretty, So you don't need anyone's validation and just treat them teh same way they treat you. If not interested in making plans with you then it's their loss.

[WhitneySnow]

They are interested but they just want to be casual friends

[HungTexan]

Maybe they’d like to, but are intimidated by you or have the wrong impression after small talk. I’m sure its something they are misreading you.

[NathanDavis]

focus on the ones who do say yes to your social invites...

[Anonymous]

You must come from a small town? People in cities have been this way for a long time. Don't take it personally.

[Anonymous]

You stop inviting them plain and simple. And don't let it bother you. You can only give energy to people that they give to you. Be friendly, but maintain your self respect.

[Tomisworthless]

You sound yucky

[eagle1951]

the public thing