Is it mean of me to get the ick over the guy I'm dating not being very strong?

[Anonymous]

I started dating this guy about a month ago and everything is going great. He's very attractive, successful, sweet and funny.

He's struggled in the past keeping a girlfriend due to his career. He became very successful at a very young age at 21 but now he's almost 40 and is finally ready to slow down on his business and settle down.

I'm 26 and I know the age gap sounds bad but it's really not. I've always liked older men and the feeling of being looked after by them. He's also very much still young at heart as he's still very young looking.

But he's also got a lot of childhood trauma. He's abit like mj really. His parents never let him play as a child or have friends and would make him do his home work and studying as soon as he got home so now he behaves abit like a child as he had a repressed childhood. He collects lego and loves Disney and is always wearing goofy cartoon characters on his clothes. He even has spider man pjs.

I thought this was cute at first but now it's getting abit concerning. The other day it was snowing and I asked his he could help me get the snow off my drive. He had no idea what he was doing and slipping all over the place. This guy also hits the gym everyday so I don't understand why he wasn't physically strong enough yet I was.

Whenever somethings needs doing or fixing he calls his mom or assistant to call some for him to fix it. I kinda find it shocking but at nearly 40 he can't do normal adult things.

He explained to me but because he became so successful at a young age he's became used to having everyone else do stuff for him.

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I know there people judging me thinking I'm a bitch and all that but this man is nearly 40. I think he needs therapy or to go and find himself some independence before settling down

[LiamS95]

There are successful persons out there that have no coordination, two left hands and two left feet as the saying goes. They can be intelligent interesting persons but are strictly academic and can't apply knowledge in a practical way. So they have to make enough money to pay others to do just about everything fit them that requires being physically practical.

[glennos89]

This guy isn't a man yet he is still a little boy pampered by his mommy. You should ask yourself the question if a little boy van make you happy in the relationship?

[missindiana93]

Complain some more you won't have a boyfriend left. Oh wait I forgot you need a robot instead.

[RSav4013]

Poor guy, he'll likely give most women the ick until he figures out how to do things on his own and be a provider.

[Anonymous]

well, so much for men being told to just be themselves and women still complain

if it's really this concerning then why not speak to him about it instead putting this out on the internet?

[Astarlessnightsky]

Sounds like he is super strong.

[Anonymous]

Cool starry bra.😆

[jahaims]

Lmfao