What exactly should I say to my boyfriend because I found another woman’s earring next to his bed that I woke up in?

[Booboolove69]

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Ok thank you
That’s wise advice
The best advice yet

[Lowly_Grumper]

First of all, you’re a majestic cupcake with sprinkles made of pure stardust, and your boyfriend is out here acting like a soggy cornflake floating in a bowl of betrayal milk.

That earring? Oh, that’s not just an accessory—it’s a *red flag* the size of a T-Rex wearing a tutu doing the cha-cha in your living room. And you deserve answers, my sparkly truth-seeking missile!

Here’s what you do: march up to him with the confidence of a raccoon stealing snacks at midnight and say, “Hey, you lint-covered jellybean! Whose earring is this? And don’t even try to tell me it’s yours unless you’ve been moonlighting as a backup dancer for Beyoncé!”

If he stutters or tries to play dumb, just hit him with, “You’re about as convincing as a goldfish trying to fake its own death. Start talking before I turn this into an episode of *Dateline: Sparkle Edition*!”

And if he tries to flip it on you? Oh-ho-ho, unleash the fury of a toddler denied their favorite crayon! Tell him, “Listen here, you stale marshmallow peep! I’m not the one out here collecting random earrings like Pokémon cards!”

No matter what happens next, remember this: You’re a glittery phoenix with no time for crusty waffle brains who can’t even keep their shenanigans under wraps. You’ve got sparkles to spread and nonsense to leave behind. Shine on, you magnificent chaos unicorn!

[Booboolove69]

Oh my God, I love you you rock thank you so much for those words of wisdom. I am stronger now and I will go stronger towards him thank you thank you

[Equality_Destroyer]

@lowly_grumper Simp of the year award: 🏆

[Booboolove69]

Exactly

[Summeroflove]

Confront him and don’t buy his lies. Once trust is gone it’s over and by the time you caught him he’s probably done it 100 times.

Men are harder to catch in their own right on average women tend to plan affairs out and they do so with people they know. There is exceptions… Just like some men plan it. But men a lot of times are more opportunists. Because they can have sex with a woman he never sees or talks to again. Someone nobody knows…

So once you caught a cheater chances are it’s not their first time unless you’re extremely observant or they mess up. Because most people are more careful the first time they cheat.

[Booboolove69]

Well, then, maybe I shouldn’t even mention the earring because then he’ll know that I’m suspicious and then he won’t mess up no more so maybe I shouldn’t even mention it

[Booboolove69]

What do you think?

[Booboolove69]

I haven’t asked him yet or confronted him yet I mean because we don’t live together and he went to work. I went home and he texted me when he got off work and said that he was gonna lay down and go to sleep and I imagine he’s tired because we had a long night last nightso I haven’t confronted him yet but I’m thinking after what you’re saying that maybe I should just not say anything about the earring at all and just watch and be observant. What do you think?

[Summeroflove]

Unless you want to get a private detective. The problems will only get worse. You have to feel disgusted being with a man whose been with only God knows who

[Summeroflove]

Definitely ask him about it. It’s weird. See how he reacts to being asked. Is there other things you noticed?

[Booboolove69]

Yes, so he has two boats he had me on and he lives on one of the boats he had me on his boat when I first got there because I just popped up. I didn’t call. I didn’t know it was coming. I went on his boat and then within a few minutes, he said let’s go to the other boat, but he has never ever took me on the other boat And then I spent the night he left for work and left me on that boat and when I went to reach for a cigarette, there was the earring, and the only other thing I noticed when I popped up last night rather than calling and letting him know it was coming. He was right outside his boat, which is unusual And he told me to wait there and he ran into the bathroom, which is outside like in the boat park there you know right near the boat and I don’t know what he was doing in there now it all could be legit that’s why I don’t wanna start tripping on it. I think you’re right. I will just ask him calmly just with curiosity and see how he respond is exactly like you said that’s what I need to do. Watch how he responds.

[Booboolove69]

He didn’t know I was coming

[Summeroflove]

So yes there definitely seems to be a pattern. People who cheat without any remorse are many times dark personaties.

So they have the way of thinking. Id you’re too dumb and naïve to catch on that you deserve it. As well as too weak to stand up for yourself.

[Summeroflove]

Obviously that’s a horrible way of thinking. But their brains are wired differently

[Booboolove69]

I don’t have any problems standing up for myself. I just don’t wanna come across crazy and jealous and all that shit believe me. I do not have any problem. I was asking everyone how to say it you know so now I know thank you.

[Summeroflove]

I understand that unfortunately that’s how dark personalities will make you look. Even if they are jealous and crazy. They want to make you look bad so they look good.

[Booboolove69]

Oh I see

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome. Just ask him where jr came from and bring up the other things that you noticed as well

[Summeroflove]

Be calm. Don’t take the bait if he tries escalating things to get you all mad to make you look like the bad one

[Booboolove69]

Ok thank you so much

[Summeroflove]

Absolutely

[ohsheeT]

I bet you you look good in these you wear lipstick too do you have the match by any chance to this . Earring

[Booboolove69]

There was only one there

[ohsheeT]

That was my point the girl would have the other one

[Booboolove69]

Exactly but who is she and does my man know her and if so then what’s up with her

[Booboolove69]

I’m still completely convinced that I should say anything

[ohsheeT]

Well if the truth matters to you it will come to you one mistake will happen after the next and then that's when you'll find out but if you ask about her then he will tell her and things will slow down but if you act like you know nothing things will come to you.

And then once you have the truth if he is having an affair that's not going to hurt you as bad as him coming home and acting as if nothing is going on at all that he's being a good boy and he's thinking that he's getting away with something that he's smarter than you that's the part that hurts but you don't know anything until you know something that's for sure

[Equality_Destroyer]

A woman's role is to trust in the leadership and authority of her man. If you were to approach me with such an inquiry, I would gently remind you of your place, emphasizing the importance of faith in our relationship. I might say, "My love, you have nothing to worry about. Trust in my commitment to you. When it's time for you to be pleasured by my huge, hard meat stick, you can rest assured that my focus is solely on you." Then, in the bedroom, I would demonstrate my dominance further, taking control and with some rough play, or even a bit of light bondage, making sure you know that your role is to surrender to my desires and turn the other cheek when you see I've been with some manipulative whore.

[Booboolove69]

Perfectly said

[beefcakebradybatson]

Prison isn't a cakewalk, Equality_Destroyer !!!

[Booboolove69]

LMAO

[Lowly_Grumper]

@equality_destroyer your misogyny is MORE SUSPICIOUS than a clown at a funeral wearing mismatched socks!

[Shiprex]

You should say , who's ear ring is this? Why is it here?
If his answer is honest and believable that his cousin, sister, mother or whoever used his bed sometime recently then you need to check this and then decide whether or not you believe them.

[Booboolove69]

He has no family here
He recently moved here

[Shiprex]

Sounds like he's up to seeing others in your absence I am afraid to say.

[Booboolove69]

I’m going to ask him straight out and see what he says I’m not going to sugarcoat the questions

[Shiprex]

Of course but don't do it aggressively only with curiosity and gauge his response

[Booboolove69]

Ok I’ll be calm

[Shiprex]

MORE than calm. Curious, like you kinda know and don't want any bullshit or conflict so you can remain dignified

[Billlewis]

‘I’ve got good news and I’ve got bad news. The good news is, you’re going to experience a huge amount of sex this month. The bad news is, it’s going to be provided in the usual manner’

[Booboolove69]

How do you figure?

[Billlewis]

Well, if you’re reasonably sure that he strayed, anyway.

[Billlewis]

Then again, if I were dating you, it would take an awful lot of motivation to cheat, because they’d likely be hard pressed to approach your level of attractiveness, in my opinion.

[Booboolove69]

Oh my God, thank you so much

[Booboolove69]

That just boosted the hell out of self-confidence thank you

[beefcakebradybatson]

"Why is this other broad's earring in your bed, boy?" (Maybe he's a Golden Earring fan. [Dutch band that had a 1973 hit,"Radar Love!!!"])

[Booboolove69]

I’m gonna say it like that shit

[ChicoFromThe305]

That one way to find out, tell him the truth and how you feel, there shouldn't be ways around that

[Booboolove69]

I’m gonna do it

[ChicoFromThe305]

Best of luck missy

[Booboolove69]

Thank you

[HungTexan]

Time to ask him what’s going on. Looks tray suspicious to me.

[bowenw]

I think it's fair to ask him who the earring belongs to. If he is seeing other women, you need to know.

Let me know what happened as I realize this question was asked more than a week ago.