Developing a friendship with a younger women?

[Anonymous]

we actually meet earlier last year and i didn't really think much about it at the time as she had worked at a restaurant with a bunch of other people i knew.

but then i started to see her again at another job ( she's now working at a retail store ) and then she also appeared as a member at the same gym i go to.

we've never really ever discussed dating or anything like that but seems like we have a real connection so it would perhaps be something that might have potential eventually

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, I get that you feel like you and this younger woman have a real connection, but I gotta say, you gotta be real careful with that. Developing a friendship, sure, that's cool. But anything beyond that could get complicated real quick, especially with the age gap.

It's great that you haven't pushed the dating angle or anything like that so far. That's smart. The last thing you wanna do is come off as some creepy older dude trying to prey on a younger woman, you feel me? That's a bad look.

My advice would be to just keep things friendly and casual for now. Get to know her as a person, build up that friendship, but don't rush into anything romantic or sexual. Make sure she's on the same page and you're not misreading the signals. Younger women can sometimes get swept up in the attention from an older guy, even if they don't really want a relationship.

You gotta be super mindful of the potential power imbalance there and make sure she feels comfortable. Tread lightly, my guy. If it's meant to be something more down the line, let it happen naturally. But for now, focus on just being a good friend and mentor, not a potential partner.

Does that make sense? I know it can be tempting, but you really can't afford to mess this up. Gotta protect yourself and look out for her too. Just take it slow and see where things go. Good luck, bro!

[Asker]

i know which is why we haven't actually done anything yet , i'm ok with just seeing where things go for the time being. she'd be an interesting option but don't feel the need to try and pressure her into something rate away

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah, I feel you bro. Sounds like you're being really smart about this whole situation with the younger woman. Taking things slow and just seeing where it goes is definitely the way to go.

No need to rush into anything or try to pressure her into anything serious right away. That could just end up backfiring or making things weird, you know?

It's cool that you're both just vibing and enjoying the connection for what it is right now. An interesting option is a good way to put it. No need to overthink it or try to force it into something more.

Just keep being respectful, set those clear boundaries, and let whatever happens happen naturally. If it develops into something more down the line, then great. But if not, no big deal - you can still have a cool friendship.

The main thing is making sure you're both on the same page and that nobody gets hurt or taken advantage of. As long as you keep that in mind, you should be good, bro.

Wishing you the best with this whole situation. Sounds like you're handling it maturely, which is dope. Let me know if you need any other advice as things progress!

[Asker]

she didn't appear at the gym last week at all , not sure where she was , also didn't see her at that store either although did see another girl we both know when i was in there so said hi to her instead.

so will see if she reappears this week or not and then i will have to decide what to say to her if we talk again or not

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn, that's a bit of a bummer she's been MIA lately. Doesn't necessarily mean anything bad, but it is a little curious.

I'd say just play it cool for now and see if she pops back up this week. No need to overthink it or try to chase her down. If you happen to cross paths, a friendly "hey, how's it going?" could be a good way to pick things back up. But don't force it if she seems distant.

The key is just not to put too much pressure on the situation. She's probably got her own stuff going on, so try not to take it personally. Just focus on being a good friend and letting things develop naturally.

If she doesn't resurface this week, you could always try shooting her a casual text or message, just to check in and let her know you've noticed she's been MIA. But don't go overboard or make it seem like you're trying to pry.

Play it low-key, homie. This friendship is still new, so don't freak out if she needs some space for a bit. As long as you're respecting her boundaries, she'll come back around when she's ready. Just be patient and let her dictate the pace.

The last thing you wanna do is come on too strong or make her feel uncomfortable. That could derail the whole thing. So just stay cool, be a good friend, and don't overthink it. She'll come back around when the time is right.

[Asker]

she returned to the gym this week ( Tuesday and Wednesday ) we did talk on Wednesday , she said she was on a trip but don't think trip covers entire time she wasn't there.

also said that she wasn't planning on returning to the place where she worked last summer where we first meet and working at that retail store instead

i'll likely see her there again next week so perhaps we could talk more

[Zack-Bann]

Pro tip: when you ask this question, TO ANYONE. Make sure you say her age!!!


At this point Im wondering if you need advice or to be taken off the streets…

[Asker]

i've clearly stated that she is younger than me , not really sure why i'd need to say anymore , obviously i'm not trying to date someone who is not the legal age of consent where i live. there is nothing wrong with dating or being friends with a younger women

[DishLady]

Her age doesn't matter as long as she's not "fish bait" AND as long as you're both mature enough to actually carry a relationship forward.

[Asker]

i wasn't fixated on her age as i felt we got along well , i'm not entirely sure what she wants though

[DishLady]

You can ASK her or just leave he alone...

[Valdemort]

Why not?
Pretty much all the guys I have the best conversations are 40 and over.

[Asker]

i don't know if she was really looking to date an older guy , i kind of just meet her at that place and we clicked , i doubt she'd have much trouble finding a guy her own age

[KITEinStorm]

What more sign are you waiting for? Go and ask her for a first date