Why do I want a relationship so badly that I feel depressed for not haveing a connection that strong but won't neccesarrily just go out with anyone?

[Anonymous]

[DishLady]

If you're depressed at being alone you're not ready for a relationship. In a healthy relationship both individuals need to be able to stand on their own and be happy without regard to anything or anyone outside of themselves -- you have to love yourself if you expect other people to love you.

WANTING a relationship doesn't mean you're READY for a relationship. A lot of folks are in love with the IDEA of love but then don't put in the effort to love themselves or to seek out a real opportunity for love.

As for the declaration of not just going out with "anyone" -- I agree with that. Find someone who values you and who adds value to your life... who you also value and can add value to their life. That's love, baby.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Because you value external validation more than internal validation

[Anonymous]

You crave deep connection, which is normal, but don't want to settle. This can lead to feeling lonely or depressed. Focus on other fulfilling aspects of your life while remaining open to a relationship with the right person. Don't rush, and consider seeking support if needed.

[AnonAndrew]

It's only natural to want a relationship.

Only you can answer why you won't go out with someone, though.

[Anonymous]

Like most men. All talk and NO action.

[Asker]

enlighten me with a solution then