Do I need to worry about this secret I shared?

[MoonFace2]

Yesterday, I took a huge risk. I told a man I’m interested in dating that I’ve got a dual diagnosis of Asperger’s syndrome and paranoid schizophrenia. They’re both mild and the schizophrenia hardly impacts my life, except for working and driving and a bit of weight gain.

I was really frightened to tell this man, who has Asperger’s, but is mentally healthy and works. He’s also getting his own house. So he’s really got his life together in ways that I haven’t. I thought it would be really shocking to him-I present as an attractive, well dressed and charismatic, intelligent person to people who don’t know. They don’t see the issues under the surface.

I felt ashamed, defective; and sure that he’d lose interest, but he said he’s still definitely interested in dating me and that he wants to take care of me. He’s told me how beautiful and nice he thinks I am. He said no one’s perfect and everyone has problems and he’s continued to court me since then.

[Summeroflove]

At some point the truth is going to come out so before you get into a serious relationship you need to know if you’re compatible. If it’s a dealbreaker for him he needs to say so just like if he told you something that’s a dealbreaker you need to tell him. Doesn’t mean anyones being judged as a human being but not to waste one another’s time. Not only out of respect for oneself but the other person as well so that you’re not wasting one another’s time.

You do deserve to have someone who loves you for you. That might mean you get rejected a few times before you find the right one. But the last thing you want is for someone to be madly in love only to drop a bombshell on them that they never knew before. Some people just aren’t cut out for it.

He said he’s interested so take it for what it is. I’m sure he has needs too being autistic himself and you may be able to understand him in ways other people may not be able to as well.

[bowenw]

I think it was very good that you were brave and told him up front.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. ☺️

[ohsheeT]

I've learned the hard way if you have a secret and you tell somebody 9 out of 10 girls are going to blab and 9 out of 10 guys are going to blab it's just a matter of time when the other two blab

[WhitneySnow]

That’s wonderful!!! Don’t worry

[Jennz6]

I’m happy for you and I won’t tell anyone