Should I ask her?

[Anonymous]

Two years ago, I was seeing a man and we went out on a few dates before I found out he was married.

When I confronted him about it, the conversation got heated & ugly. Needless to say, all ties were cut right then & there and we haven’t had any contact since. Shortly after, I called my Sister and told her what happened. When I texted my Sister a picture of the guy I was telling her about, she didn’t mention OR give any indication that she knew him.

Fast forward, today my Sister post on her social media and I saw the same guy, comment on her post. For them to be connected on social media, when both of their pages are private, immediately concerned me. I don’t want to assume anything, because she may not have remembered what the guy looked like from the pic I showed her. However, them being connected on SM is very strange to me. I want to ask my Sister about this but she’s an habitual liar and she’s known to date married men.

Thoughts?

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Or should I say something to him instead?

[ohsheeT]

I wouldn't ask her and you could say that you want to ask her because you don't want her to get hurt

But if your sister is a liar she's going to lie to you no matter what I think this is something that you have to just kind of let it go I know you don't want to but you have to just let it go and if they are connected somehow eventually things will go wrong and she will go through that pain and she will come to you


But anything you were to say to her now or try to do or try to warn her about you're going to be the bad guy because he doesn't want to hear it if she is seeing him or whatever and you're interfering in her life is what she will say you will become the bad person but if you let it all go

It will happen and I'll tell you why it will happen it's because whether you know this or not but you can fighting in your sister to let her know something on how you felt about the guy
Was truly that

But at the same time it was the biggest warning you could give to anybody and she did not hear it she did not want to hear it because I guarantee you she remembers the picture she remembers of the guy but that's why everything happened the way that it happened

And in our universe even though you were saying that you're bummed out about this guy blah blah blah


It was meant for your sister to hear to warn her what's going to happen because she's with a married guy if she ever gets with a married guys what I should say it was just a warning that's all but I mean it was loud and clear I guarantee it even though it wasn't meant to be that way but I guarantee it so the truth will eventually come out don't get yourself all upset or anything like that because

To be honest with you you're the lucky one because you saw it all you did the right thing and you walked away so that's a beautiful thing and you have to be proud of yourself for that

Your sister thinks she's smarter than everybody let her feel that way let her go do it her way and when she comes to you and says he broke my heart or whatever he says he says whatever then you can just look at her and shake your head like first of all why do you even do this I mean there's a lot of things you can do but don't do them LOL

Consider yourself very very lucky and blessed because you not only seen But felt and heard all the morning signs and you did the right thing she's not going to do the right thing

Because like I said she thinks she's smarter bigger better in every single way and now she gets to prove just how whatever she thinks she is is if that made sense that I say let it go live your life because you guys just write around the corner he's. Searching for you too and you're getting closer and closer it will happen probably 2 months or something before whatever happens with your sister this guy happens just to prove to your sister once again that you do the right thing you get the right thing you do the bad thing look at you you deserve what you're going through

Well she might not deserve it but I mean you know what I mean in a roundabout way she does deserve it because just because I'm not even going to go there but anyway I say good job don't ask her though if you ask her you're just going to be the bad person and all that negativity that goes through with your whole family and blah blah blah he's just going to hold you back from meeting the guy that you're supposed to be meaning
For doing the right thing

[ohsheeT]

If you ask him is he going to lie about your sister

[Asker]

True. What I ended up doing, was reaching out to this Wife, sending her as message, that if her Husband goes pass liking my Sister’s pics, we gonna have a problem. She replied “Was there anything else, besides him liking pics? If not, then I guess she wasn't gonna make a big deal of it. But why would he want to have any association with the sister of a woman, you had an affair with, that went sour?

[ohsheeT]

Well it all depends on who she is she's probably a stay-at-home mom maybe and doesn't have any other resources and not confident within herself to walk away if he was doing this

And then I would go as far as to say he's probably done it before and probably got caught

So she's going to basically defend him in a way because she doesn't want it to be true anyway but in time she'll find out if she already doesn't know

But at least you're going to know if she talks to him about it because if she does he will talk to your sister and your sister will call you out of the blue

[Asker]

Yep. How the couple respond to this situation, will tell me everything I need to know.

[ohsheeT]

Exactly right and that's the best way to find out anything is by allowing them annoyingly most of the time project something to you

[ohsheeT]

Let me ask you something if he was not married would you still be dating him

[Asker]

No, we were not compatible

[ohsheeT]

I.
Wouldn't think so, if he's married anyway. But you have a good heart for doing what you did. There's a lot of women out there. That would just go for it

[naartjie]

Your sister is nasty.
Ask her.
Talk to the married mans wife if you can too.

[Asker]

I ended reaching out to this Wife, by sending her as message, that if her Husband goes pass liking my Sister’s pics, we gonna have a problem. She replied “Was there anything else, besides him liking pics?

I guess the reason she asked, because, if not, then she wasn't gonna make a big deal of it or even address the issue with him. But why would he wanna have any association with the Sister of a woman, you had an affair with, that went sour?

[naartjie]

Well does she know he had an affair with you? If not, that’s something you need to

[Asker]

She knows, because I reached out to her and told her when I found out he was married.

[LadyBecks]

If it were my sister, I'd still ask