Do men not understand they should be the ones dating up?

[Anonymous]

I’m not saying you should be superficial…. Dating “down” can work too if she’s a good humble sweet person. The truth is nobody is better then anyone because of money, social status, etc. People are what choices they make their integrity as well as what kind of person they are.

If a woman’s dating you become you’re her best option NOT because she genuinely is attracted to you and wants to be with you. As soon as she finds someone else she’s going to move on not to mention that relationships built on superficiality not genuine love will end in cheating.

If someone doesn’t have that connection they will get bored in bed…. They will eventually if not immediately begin sleeping around. Not to mention even if she never cheats the man may become so miserable he begins finding a way out.

Not all women are like this. So find one who genuinely wants to be with you. If you get insecure because “well look who else she could have”…. But at the end of the day she chose you didn’t she.

[naartjie]

You look for a person you’re attracted to and who is a good person and who wants you wholeheartedly.
Going based on money or just how attractive they are, will only leave you forever chasing something new and you’ll be alone and always unhappy.
There will ALWAYS be someone richer, fitter, more attractive, has a nicer life ect…
I’d rather a broke guy, makes me laugh, puts in effort, works hard, has goals and dreams for himself, kind, sympathetic, good listener, good morals and value, loves with everything in him, wants to be a devoted husband and father, good to me and our kids etc.
I’ve met people with big money and can tell you I couldn’t related to them nor them with me. You can tell they don’t care deeply for others and their family isn’t as big of an importance as they should be.
I’ve met poorer people who are so incredibly giving, welcome you with open arms, care more etc

[Plugs]

You are stupid. Looks and leagues exist. And a women above your league has a motivation or purpose for dating a guy below hers

[Asker]

For people who are superficial maybe. I get making a connection with someone can be harder dating someone who is living a different lifestyle though

[Asker]

Such as someone whose very poor and someone whose rich. It can lead to being used and having someone not used to having that much money just going crazy

[Plugs]

Guys who lack quality , waste time talking. More action , results , tangibles over talking loser

[beaves11]

Leagues don’t exist. No genuinevresearch backs this up. Most marry a similar education and relative income level, but absolutely no study has ever shown that “looks match” is a thing. People marry who they are attracted to physically

[Plugs]

@beaves11 nahhhhh. people know some race , caste have superior genes

[Asker]

Guys who lack quality are the ones who seem to use material value and superficial crap to boost themselves

[Plugs]

lol quality is defined by actions. Its the opposite you loser

[beefcakebradybatson]

I'm VERY BRIGHT and can be choosy about women.

[Kingofkings1992]

Leagues do not exist, unless you’re a moron

[beefcakebradybatson]

What people? White supremacists, most of whom are so dumb and fugly they refute that hoary "belief?"

[Asker]

@beefcakebradybatson white supremacists are very rare. Dumb….. yes. But rare

[Anonymous]

How about men & women date on level.

How? Answer: Tell yourself you deserve to be love, respected, supported, have a voice and feel like you matter / open up on your feelings & innermost emotions without being shunned just like you’d do for your special partner.

[Asker]

I agree. Unfortunately some of the only people who tell themselves that are narcissists who refuse to provide the same.

[Asker]

But good people need to have that mindset and not throw their love and nurture away on losers. Men or women

[Opinion Owner]

Like I’ve seen men who believe women won’t like them if they open up about problems or voice concerns or whatever. I tell them to not settle and the one that loves you will still see the man she fell in love with & see him for the bigger picture just like he sees her, they deny it due to societal pressures or stereotypes or some shit. No one should settle for less, settle for what you’d do for them have them do for you.

[Sonorous]

There's not enough biological incentive for men to date up on mass. Since women choose which men to sleep with, it makes sense that men aren't as picky or most would likely end up not getting any 🐈

[Asker]

Women get rejected all the time you know…. Women can’t just choose who they want they may have a large pool of the two extremes one being the fuck boys, players, and guys like that the other extreme or creeps turds and losers.

But these women with unreasonable standards they never hold themselves to never get the kind of men they want. So they become bitter and hate men

[Sonorous]

You're missing the point

[beefcakebradybatson]

How 'bout us handsome men? We don't have to club ugly women.

[beaves11]

Leagues don’t exist man. I know no one who practices what you’re saying. People only date people they find good looking. They don’t go for a match or less etc. just what they are into

[HawkPerception]

Leagues exist

[beaves11]

No, they don’t.

[Anonymous]

Who is to say what is up or down in this context.

[Asker]

Social status. Financially. Looks wise

[Asker]

A lot of dudes date down because it makes them feel more secure. But that ends up having the opposite effect in the end.

[NicholasRedone]

I'm just happy to be here 👀 me 👁️ on a hot date - 🍽️ 😋 mmmm

[LiamJHayden]

I look for a lady who is fun, kind, and into me. I don't care if she is considered super beautiful and wealthy, or is a broke Plain Jane.

[beefcakebradybatson]

I should date up perhaps in social status;even at 71, it would be hard to find a better-looking woman.

[Beachbummama84]

It’s hard for them to date up

[Asker]

It can be. Dudes who wag their dick around have a hard time at least.

[GAGsucksballs89170]

Most people settle

[beaves11]

This is objectively untrue. Most people understand it’s better to be alone than settle. Given strict leagues don’t exist most still find people with mutual attraction.

[GAGsucksballs89170]

@beaves11 I guarantee you, most people, settle

[beaves11]

No, they don’t. Most people are healthy enough they know that it’s better to be alone with with someone you’re not attracted to.

Sounds like you don’t get that, but most do.

[GAGsucksballs89170]

@beaves11 I guarantee you, most people, settle, it's about as common as someone next door

[Priya99999]

My boyfriend is christ 😄

[Asker]

Don’t blaspheme

[Priya99999]

I didn't. I'm like mary Magdalene