Is it okay to take things slowly?

[MoonFace2]

I have two men who’ve decided they’re interested in me. As well as a third one that seems to be subtly flirting with me, who has a girlfriend.

I know I like two of the men and one as a friend, but I haven’t decided how interested in any of them I am. So after a guy at a dance asked me about my sexuality (if I was a lesbian); I publicly posted on our group forum to let him and the other men know I’m not gay, I like men, but I’m focusing on taking things slowly with making friends and finding a boyfriend.

Two of the guys approaching me are professional models, the other one is a very smart, funny man.

I haven’t decided because I feel a bit overwhelmed by the attention and I have my share of mental health issues that are only mild, but prevent me from working long hours and having money. So I am also considering whether I need a boyfriend or want one, under these circumstances, or if it’ll complicate my life and hold me back.

[Shiprex]

Do not rush things. See how you feel about them as you get to know them better. Remember once they become aware of your situation there is a strong chance the others will bail out of your life completely. Guys don't want or deserve the friend zone whether you believe in that or not, it's not something a self aware man will want in this day and age to be a second choice or place holder. Maybe they will be ok with that but it's less and less attractive to be seen as hanging around someone in the hope they fail in their relationship.

Be cautious but not secretive about the interests of these guys toward you.

[bowenw]

Take you time and get to know them and see if you have any serious feelings for any of them.

[bowenw]

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[DishLady]

Of course it's best to take things slowly and see which one you prefer -- HOWEVER you should also be up front with BOTH guys to let them know that you're not exclusive with either of them and you're "keeping your options open". They might not LIKE that but they'll respect you for being honest.

[GoodEnoughThen]

The pace to go at is the one that feels comfortable. One person's slow is another person's fast. I support the speed that you pick because it works for you. Anyone truly interested in you will naturally match your speed. Worth the wait.

[WilliamPamer446]

Ya get to know them buddy

[Anonymous]

Yes, it is best to take it slow.

[Jennz6]

Always