What makes a woman marriage material?

[Anonymous]

Apparently according to some people and friends I’m not married yet because I don’t know how to talk to guys in order for them to take me seriously lol. Actually from my experience they take me seriously even with me “not knowing how to talk”. I’m the one not taking them seriously because I tend to get bored easily but people don’t know that lol. I guess my question is why are those pretty girls still single some single moms if they know how to talk to guys? Help me understand

[DishLady]

A woman who has “staying power” (which includes patience, empathy, sense of humor and natural appeal) and knows how to be clear and honest about stuff without pestering a guy to death… is marriage material. She can HAVE a tough side, but needs to be in touch with her sweeter, feminine side to coax the guy’s sweet side out as well. It’s important that a couple that marries is able to lay their tough armor out at the door so they can be their vulnerable and honest selves when they’re together.

[Zack-Bann]

The first mistake is to consider “marriage” when you’re meeting a relative stranger.


What makes you think he’s a good husband?
Or you’ll like his family.
Or any other one of a thousand reasons not to marry him


Instead you should be taking it one step at a time
First you worry about the first date
Then the first kiss
Then how long to wait to have sex
Then when you can call yourself boyfriend and girlfriend
Then if moving in together is a good idea
Then the proposal
Then the planning
Then the marriage


As you can see there’s a long road between “nice to meet you” and “I do”
Take the time to walk it


Otherwise you’ll rush into a commitment with someone that will destroy your life
That’s why there are so many single moms out there

[Anonymous]

It's not about knowing how to talk to guys. That's just one factor in a long list. At a high level, it's about her personality, values and character, and her attitudes toward men and relationships. And knowing how to treat a man right. And I'm not just talking about sex.

[Opinion Owner]

I'll also add that she needs to put a man's mind at ease about marriage. Marriage has become a very unfriendly and perilous thing for men. It's not what it used to be, at all. And it is quickly losing its appeal to men. She needs to convince her man that she is one of the seemingly few modern women who will make marriage a positive experience for him, and won't ruin his life by using the female-biased court system and divorcing him and taking his children. That's not an easy task these days.

[Asker]

That’s what I thought too. Anyway I think they just want me to talk more and get married lol

[Nikki1989]

The idea of “marriage material” is incredibly subjective and outdated. It implies a woman needs to fit a specific mold to be worthy of marriage, which is simply not true. It is also degrading and an offensive term to use.

[ChicoFromThe305]

A woman that's marriage material usually has all the aspects to be a good mother and wife and that of course includes the ability to be supportive, mature, good at communication, loyalty, trustful, trustworthy, and respectful.

[Asker]

My question is if all that it takes to get married is knowing how to talk. Why are those girls who do know how to talk not married?

[ChicoFromThe305]

No it's not, as I've mentioned some of the most common requirements, you can see is far more than just being able to talk lol

[Asker]

I’ve seen women with all those aspects. Some are single moms, never been married. Why aren’t they marriage material? Don’t say bad luck because out of 35 years of living it can’t all be bad luck lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well that's just bad life choices, I don't doubt you've seen such things, they had he qualities but chose a shitty man, that's just bad taste in men which I guess for a successful marriage they must have good taste but I guess you can see where I'm going with this

[ChicoFromThe305]

It's not that they weren't good quality for a marriage, they just chose the man that would hit and quit and not the man that was willing to accept them and open their heart to them

[Asker]

I do lol

[Asker]

But if they know how to talk to men I’m sure they’re capable of changing those men minds and make them want what they want. Anyway that’s what I understand by knowing how to talk.

[ChicoFromThe305]

We talking will help but it doesn't make someone marriage material, communication is important but if that communication doesn't lead to any actions then the communication is pretty pointless.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Usually what leads to action is the required qualities in marriages, not being able to yap all day long 😆

[Asker]

Ok I get what you’re saying. The man might not be thinking about marriage so even if the girl is marriage material it’s not going to change his mind. I guess then my question is what’s knowing “how to talk to a guy?” Cause if they’re talking and he’s still not taking her seriously despite her bad taste in men then some may say she doesn’t know how to talk to a guy.

[ChicoFromThe305]

What others think is worthless on the situation, people's interests are different and talking to someone is normal, even if it's just to read them as a person, I don't get what you are saying anon

[Asker]

lol I know but my problem is that people say that’s why I’m not married yet because I can’t talk to men for them to take me seriously. So I have all the other aspects except communication. My réponse to them is those other women are the complete package why aren’t they married? You replied saying maybe it’s their taste in men but we all know women hold the power in relationships. With their good looks charming smiles and good communication skills how come theyre still incapable of acquiring those types of men they want in marriage.

[oldpigg]

She has to be a virgin and have a good career, and be taller than 158 centimeters.

[MasterKS]

never though about marriage, so no marriage material.
also funny to read a women calling material... lol

[Asker]

Who never thought about marriage? The man or the woman?

[MasterKS]

me. marriage is saturated.

[Anonymous]

Any truly godly woman is marriage material.

[Anonymous]

If you don't know you ain't it.