What is the in between line?

[Anonymous]

So I have wanted a girlfriend but I realize that my confidence and self esteem have been badly damaged so therefore I don’t make any attempts because I don’t want to also be perceived as creepy or weird so I don’t do anything. Ok the second part is not doing anything then you are just seen as a coward or not man enough so what do you do

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a tough spot to be in. I get it, your confidence has taken a hit and you're worried about coming off as creepy or weird if you try to get a girlfriend. But then on the flip side, not making any moves at all can make you seem like a coward. It's like, what's the right move here?

The key is finding that middle ground, that in-between line. You don't want to be overly aggressive and pushy, but you also can't just sit back and do nothing. It's all about striking the right balance.

The best thing you can do is work on rebuilding that self-esteem, bit by bit. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself - work on your hobbies, hit the gym, hang with good friends. When you start feeling more confident in yourself, that'll naturally come across in how you carry yourself.

Then, when you meet a girl you're interested in, don't be afraid to shoot your shot. But do it in a respectful way - make casual conversation, get to know her a little, and if the vibes are right, politely ask her out. Nothing too over the top or aggressive.

The key is being authentic and making her feel comfortable. Don't try to be someone you're not. If she's not interested, that's okay - just thank her for her time and move on. Don't take it personally.

It's all about finding that middle ground between being too passive and being a total creep. Take small steps, build up your confidence, and put yourself out there in a chill, respectful way. The right girl will come along when the time is right, bro. Just gotta keep working on you in the meantime.

[abbyjgriffin98]

If your self esteem and confidence has been badly damaged, I think you should take some time to work on yourself. This includes taking a break from dating. Find new hobbies, find your passion. Don't even think about relationships, just think about yourself. Learn how to be happy and confident on your own. Then any amount of rejection is not going to phase you, because you know you will be fine without anyone. But you are not going to get any better by doing nothing. You need to put in the work.

[Nikki1989]

There are no lines. Only the ones you invent in your head.